Why is it so complicated with him, he doesn’t know how to express himself, loves me very much, needs me, wants me in every way but sometimes its so hard to love him.
The things he says are so hurtful when he is angry. I am deeply wounded by some of them for which i’ll never forgive him, but i love him too. So so much can’t live without him, every time we push each other away, we crawl back to each other…
What is it?
What to do?
Trust actions and not words. It does get hard sometimes (that’s what she said) anyway but if it’s about one problem and you’re both taking an effort to work on it that’s great. If not ? DUMP HIM. People don’t change. If you’re being too understanding the whole time ? You’re turning into a clingy person and you’re giving him your self respect on a platter. So that’s on you
It is about one problem.
Luna Lia @lunaleeka
Are you saying one problem to not show him in bad light or because you’re too worried about just this one problem for now. If he says really mean and hurtful things to you when he’s angry, that’s not how a mature person behaves. One is calm even in anger to sort things and work it out
Its both.
You know what to do. You’re just too scared of doing it and it’s consequences. Trust me this is not how you should be feeling. Things in love happen with ease for the comfort and care for each other. One doesn’t violate someone’s respect. There’s a big world out there and you need to love and respect yourself by having your own stances on things and not always meet at a common ground for his convenience. As someone who went through this shit. I wish I could do this sooner
What if he is willing to change by himself?
Does he deserve another chance?
People don’t change to their core. Their actions may be untrue to what they truly want to do just out of guilt of your presence. You’re influencing the way they behave because they want something out of you that satisfies them in some or the other way. You need to pull yourself out of this situation because people don’t change and you can’t force them to, not even with love. If you do, they’ll be unwilling to talk to you about things and you’ll be left in the unknown and they’ll be deceitful
