Hi!
So, I met this guy, who is really sweet. We have a lot of things in common too. We had a great one month together.
After that, I had to move back home for a few months, so we were doing long distance. One thing I noticed before was that he is a very bad texter, but chose to ignore it, since we’re both doctors and have busy schedules.
Anyway, after about two weeks, there was a death in his family. I immediately noticed a change in his behaviour. Messages and calls were down to a minimum. I did my best to comfort him. After a few more days, he stopped replying completely.
I dropped him a heartfelt message that if he wants a break, just tell me. I called him. No answer.
This happened for about a month. In my mind, it was over.
But after a month, he contacted me again….he wrote a whole explanation about how he was depressed, after the death. He had cut himself off of all friends and family. Was just locked in a room. But now he’s on medication and feeling better.
He apologised for a week and I ignored him. After a week I finally talked to him to tell him this was over. But after listening to his explanation and his meek voice, I couldn’t. So I told him I’d think about it.
It’s been another month after that, and he’s has been sending sweet texts everyday. He’s been calling almost everyday too. I have to admit, I have had long talks with him about the ‘good old times’
I’m really confused now.
I’m worried people are going to think I’m a joke if I accept him back. But I’m also worried I met be letting a great guy go. What if he does something like this again? I mean, he’s an obvious flight risk.
What should I do?
Tum ladkiyo ka kuch ni hoskta yaar !
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Empathy plays a big role in relations, he explained to you he was depressed because of death, you shouldn’t treat him like this.
Look. He did ignore you for a month but he was depressed from a dea th in family. You can’t be mad about that, that’s like you don’t have empathy.
Now he is making efforts to make things up. Appreciate when someone does that. He is showing efforts because he wants you back.
If you really like him, go and sort things up.
If you don’t, just clear that too, don’t leave him hanging
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Hi. What I’m really concerned about is that he can repeat something like that in the future. And I can’t go through that again. That one month was really hard for me. So I just want to be sure before I invest in him again. I mean, I’ve asked him about it and he said that there might be other mistakes, but there’ll never be a communication error again. But this whole incident just built up a lot of trust issues.
I understand that. But he did that because he was suffering right?
If he had done that due to some silly reason, then you should have never given him another chance.
But he was suffering.
Imagine yourself in his position.
I think, you should give him a chance, talk to him and ask him to never do that again even if he’s suffering, let him allow you to be there for him.
Some one has died. You should be empathetic towards the person. Try to read about it and kind of emotions people go through if there is a happening like that. Do communication lines open. Rest you can decide which way to go
You need someone to talk daily and sharing things like a company! And a support
