This is my first relationship and with a guy 7 years older than me whom i met 2 months ago on an online dating site. I had no idea how relationships work and what all we have to do or expect in return. In the very beginning it was bliss …i felt as if i could depend on him , share everything and get constant support but as a month passed by i realised he is emotionally withdrawn and dosen’t have time for me eventhough i take time out of my busy schedule for him. I don’t know what will happen next but i am just fed up when i am the only one working on this relationship. We are in a relationship but he says i am too young to commit to one guy…that i should explore …date and meet other guys …even hookup with them. And he is cool with that. It feels like he is pushing me away even when i want to stay! I don’t want to be with other guys but him and ok i get it that i am just 18 and there is so much to explore but i want to do it with him. Why dosen’t he get that?!? He says he is afraid what if we get too close and one oneday we breakup …it will shatter him. But right now he’s distant behaviour towards me is hurting me like hell! I am in pain.
Gaurvi Narang @gaurvinaran...
Hey I am so sorry you feel this way. I don’t know if it is my place to tell you what to do. I’ll just say this though. If something is not making you a better and happier person, it does not have any room in your life.
Simran Patel @simranpatel
Hey, from what I read, it’s too early for you to get so serious. I know it’s difficult to hold the reins when you’re in love but take it slow. Get to know him. How he is when he’s angry, how he is when he’s upset, his dreams, his aspirations, etc. Only then can you truly understand whether it’s love or attraction. From his responses, he seems to be in a place which is a little casual as opposed to you. Unless you both are on the same page, things won’t work out. There are going to be differences in opinion considering the age gap but all that won’t matter once you both truly understand each other. I hope you figure out a way to express yourself to him. Good luck❤️
I think, and as far as I can tell from experience, I don’t know what is going on inside his head. And if he cannot give his 100% to you, whatever the reason may be, then don’t waste your energies to chase him…AT any point in your relationship if your partner isn’t as committed as you are, then something isn’t right.