ASHISH SHARMA @sleek_tent
Need clarity
I’m in a relationship with this girl for the last 4 months. The honeymoon phase was good, we go out, make plans, and sometimes stay together. But 2 months later, the question started coming to my mind if I see her as my wife or not. We’re completely different personalities, different cultures, and she also has BPD. These constant thoughts in my mind has made the situation worst. She keeps convincing me that we will make, and feel good at the time.
But after some time, same thoughts come and I feel guilty that I am doing something wrong. I’m leading her on that I’m not able to reciprocate the same love to her that she does. And the fact she has BPD, she has gone on extremes due to these argument and said/did many things which I don’t want to tolerate.
Things have become so bad we both know that this won’t work, but due to our attachment, We’re still talking. She says I broke her so bad, and this guilt is making me feel the worst.
What do I do
U are leading her on to feel good abt yourself
ASHISH SHARMA @sleek_tent
Is it so? What should I do at the moment?
Thanks for the advice buddy. Yes, I’ve told her, and she’s also sure that she won’t convince me anymore to stay. Although we’re not officially broken up, she, these days throw taunts saying you could have done this, done that, etc. And this puts me into the zone of overthinking, like if I did the worst to her. I’m just trying to be there for her for the time being.
Bhavna P. @bhavna_pande
Facing such a challenging situation is tough. Prioritizing your well-being becomes crucial when managing extreme emotions and dealing with guilt and doubts in a relationship, especially with someone who has BPD.
Considering the difficulties you’re facing, taking a wise step at the right time could reduce further pain for both of you. Engaging in open communication and seeking professional advice may help in navigating this complex situation. Remember, prioritizing your well-being is essential in any relationship.
Best,
Counseling Psychologist Bhavna Pande
These are things u think about before dating someone unless you want it casual and you’ve mentioned it
