Sharing Our Innermost Thoughts

Moving On

After a while the 𝘩𝘶𝘳𝘵 hurts less. You start to see reason, you begin to understand why they did what they did. Knowing that it takes two hands to clap. Learn, that not everyone you meet will stay in your life forever. Sometimes, they’re a passing character in a chapter of your book. They’re to teach you a certain lesson, to help you experience different things in life- different emotions, to grow, and maybe to show you how to love yourself better. 𝘍𝘪𝘯𝘥 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘸𝘰𝘳𝘵𝘩.

Some of these characters will be difficult to replace when their time has come to an end in a chapter of your life. But, it is important to learn and to see the necessity to let them go, even if you don’t want to.

At the beginning, it will hurt. It’s the kind of hurt that will leave you crying till you fall asleep at 3 AM, puffy eyes, nose blocked and swollen. The kind of hurt that follows you everywhere - reminding you of the memories you had once shared at particular places you pass by. The hurt that leaves you thinking if you ever meant anything to them. Heartbreak is inevitable, especially, with the people you love. But, if it’s one thing I’ve learned: you cannot have expectations. You can’t expect them to love you back the same way you love them, with the same amount of intensity, and The way you love someone- that does not determine the way that person is going to love you back. You can have multiple connections with people, but that does not necessarily mean that they are meant for you, and darling, 𝘪𝘵’𝘴 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘴𝘢𝘮𝘦 𝘸𝘪𝘵𝘩 𝘭𝘰𝘷𝘦. This applies to both friendships and relationships, as we hate to admit it.

The hardest part about losing someone you love is not the goodbye, rather than learning to live without them. And what fuels the hurt is when you see how they’re able to move on without you. But can you blame them? Honestly, you can’t. My grandpa always said “𝘐𝘧 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘳𝘦𝘢𝘭𝘭𝘺 𝘭𝘰𝘷𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘱𝘦𝘳𝘴𝘰𝘯, 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘸𝘪𝘭𝘭 𝘸𝘢𝘯𝘵 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘮 𝘵𝘰 𝘣𝘦 𝘩𝘢𝘱𝘱𝘺. 𝘌𝘷𝘦𝘯 𝘪𝘧 𝘪𝘵 𝘮𝘦𝘢𝘯𝘴 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘺’𝘳𝘦 𝘨𝘰𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘵𝘰 𝘣𝘦 𝘩𝘢𝘱𝘱𝘺 𝘸𝘪𝘵𝘩𝘰𝘶𝘵 𝘺𝘰𝘶, 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘸𝘪𝘭𝘭 𝘳𝘦𝘴𝘱𝘦𝘤𝘵 𝘵𝘩𝘢𝘵 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘭𝘦𝘵 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘮 𝘨𝘰. 𝘉𝘦𝘤𝘢𝘶𝘴𝘦 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘸𝘢𝘯𝘵 𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘮 𝘵𝘰 𝘣𝘦 𝘩𝘢𝘱𝘱𝘺.” But what if I don’t want to let them go? Would you rather be happy with someone, but that person does not feel the same kind of happiness with you? That 𝘣𝘰𝘵𝘩𝘦𝘳𝘦𝘥 me, a lot honestly. The one thing people crave, it’s love and being valued. However, when you 𝐥𝐨𝐨𝐤 for love, to find that healing to fill that void they’ve left - I have found that it never really works out. It’s not purely genuine? I feel it’s more of a forced connection because you want to fill that void, you crave that drug and rush called ‘love’ because it’s a beautiful feeling. However, the best kind of love, something I find the purest, is unexpected love. Because you’re not looking for something, you’re not looking for healing. Sometimes, through the people we meet, we 𝘧𝘪𝘯𝘥 healing. And the world doesn’t seem that bitter after all.

They help you get back onto your feet, but you’re much stronger now. 𝘚𝘵𝘳𝘰𝘯𝘨𝘦𝘳 than before, aware. Aware of how 𝘭𝘰𝘷𝘦 can be so fragile and pure - yet it has the power to break, shatter and destroy. Wiser, as to 𝘸𝘩𝘰 you allow yourself to love. ❤️