Iโve been sick for 2 days in the middle of moving and Iโm angry now. I feel like in my relationship I donโt have a voice anytime I try to talk Iโm always shut down or made to feel Iโm stupid and if I say anything once Iโm bullied into shutting up I have alot more I could say but ill just leave it there
Hi. I can tell you that at some point, you will start to wonder, โAm I crazy?โ or โAm I overreacting?โ The answer to both is No.
If your other half truly cares about you - you telling them โYou are hurting meโ will make them stop and listen. However, I must say - relationships regardless of what kind are a two way street.
If they are hurting as well or feel that you are hurting them, you need to be willing to listen and be compassionate about their situation; just as you want them to be to yours.
Iโve been with the same man for 16 years and I can tell you - itโs never been an easy road. Weโve been married for 14 and I still think heโs CRAZY for choosing to stay with me. For a long time, I felt that he married me to go through the motions and he agreed - yes, he was doing that. However, he realised at that point that even though that was initially the case, he still loves me very much and wanted to continue in our relationship so we asked, โHow can we make this real?โ
To be honest, it was just acceptance - of each other; all our faults and emotions and I must say, giving that much up - breaking those barriers we all normally break has been difficult but freeing at the same time.
I tell you, watching the first episode of Red Table Talk with Jada Pinkett-Smith and her relationship with her husband, Will Smith about them realising that putting conditions on someone you love is wrong.
Weโre all conditioned to believe that if someone you love has done something that normally hurts a relationship. For example, feeling attracted to someone else and doing something about it normally would be considered infidelity and break a marriage or relationship because we say, โIf you have an affair then you donโt deserve my affection anymoreโ and thatโs not right. Weโre all on this world to be loved; to feel a connection.
Iโm not here to tell you - well IF they arenโt listening to you THEN leave. Iโm saying if they arenโt listening to you, ask them to. If they truly mean the world to you, then try and ask them to try as well.
I hope that helps :)