I haven’t been able to move on from my ex relationship… my girlfriend was not mentally very sane and was getting too busy with her professional life as I am in the transition phase from my masters to professional life … I didn’t had much work to do so I kinda started expecting much from her in terms of time and affection we involved in an argument and she started asking for space… and being very anxious I couldn’t provide the space she was asking for… and we had more arguments… and at the end one day we had a fight and she blocked me on text…but we are still there on each others social media… she still ghosts me if I try texting her but I really don’t know what’s going on in her mind … she seems very cold and distant… and that bothers me a lot ngl… any piece of advice from someone?
jerry @jerry_ken
Try to give her some space so that she could figure out what she wants and for you too take some time, think about yourself and just relax everything will be fine.
She was kinda pissed bcoz I did got angry and gaslighted her when I used to tell her about my day and she used to be very cold towards it… ig I did bothered her a lot… it’s not like I always wanted to hurt her 🫤…I wish the best for her… always been a good therapist for her… and never counted on anything that I do for her … it’s just I was becoming a bit lonely and too attached to her🫤… I do understand that it’s kind of my fault for everything and I do wanna fix it but idk how
If something is meant to be yours it will be you don’t need to force it to be with you. You did everything from your side so now just give your relationship a little break and try to figure out everything. And discuss your feelings with your partner after sometime so that she could also understand
Gaslighted her ??? How ?
You know honestly even I don’t know…I was irritated one day … bcoz I was coming back from work and I met with an accident…. I got my leg fractured so I texted her like I wanted to talk… just normally I texted her about what happened with me… and she just replied ok to it and I got a bit pissed and said can you be a little affectionate :/ after that when we had a fight she said I was tested her inhumane and gaslighted her :/ and I seriously don’t know what I did… I mean I know I was wrong here but still… I just wanted to talk to her … and wanted to feel secure… :/ I hope you understand…
Bruhh u don’t like her . U are using her as your trauma dump
U just like the fact she lets u use her . U like that she provides and u receive. U don’t like her
Umm… I have been helping her in her therapies since 2 years now… I personally hand write a novel journal for her every month for her to read and feel good about … since last 2 years I have been sitting at night watching her sleep bcoz she suffers from hypertension and nightmares …😓 whenever she cries even if it’s about 3 am in night I go and meet her try comforting her… idk if I can say I like her or not but I do try to give her everything I could …and I have just explained the therapy part… not the actual caring part … I never dumped myself on her … it’s just the time hasn’t been too good for me… so I wanted to talk to her about it
She’s a friend whom u care abt . Treat her like that . Maybe she felt u were trying to test her friendship boundaries
Umm… last year she approached me for a relationship… and since then we both were into it😓 I mean … I know you’re right on your terms and I will say that I have failed in my terms in understanding her… and I shouldn’t have been there… but yeah I don’t know I we call it love or not but surely … we did valued each other a lot….
Exactly u just used her attention in every way . U even faked a relationship from your side to keep her attention
It wasn’t like that but if you say so …
Bro I think you’re being too quick to judge him you don’t know what was the situation or what happened. Plus I think he’s in a phase in which whatever you try to tell him he will agree that he did wrong
Idk what to say… I mean 😬 i know caring for someone doesn’t exactly mean love but i think love comes with care… if I make any sense … he/she might be right that I might not love her… but I never wanted anything bad for her… she used to be too busy and we used to not even talk for 10 minutes during the day …😬 and it was just the phase of my life where I wanted more than 10 minutes from her… 🫤 I don’t know how am I becoming so wrong that I am being called out saying i dont love her…:/
She probably wanted to talk too but your intentions are to use her
👀how are you so quick to this conclusion here? If I just wanted to use her then… why would even care for her?
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Hey I too have a nature like … I too become anxious when I don’t get attention or anything like cold and rude happens … one thing you should know is that you got triggered when she didn’t gave attention… and that creates wound inside … and also the fact that if she really cared about you, she would have understood your situation and things would have mutual compromise and she would have cared for you …… and if she is being distant then please take care of your self respect and don’t text , that is the worst thing you do to yourself , know that somebody better will come into your life and leave things on time …. Take care buddy … smile please:) rest I don’t know what to say …
