I don't know how to convince my dad abt my education. His character is very narrow. From my small age he never listens to me r my mom. He is authoritative. So can anyone tell me how to convince about my dad.

I think you should talk to your dad, let him know your side of the story. Tell him why you feel a particular field would be best for you, tell him about the effort you want to put in, explain to him how your education can make a difference to you and also tell him about how hard you are willing to work. I hope this helps. 

Education

 I have had depression for a long time.. all pf reasons for feeling depressed is becoz i think im not good enough, im useless and people dont like me.. all this feelings started becoz of my mom.. verbal abuse and physically beating me up and constantly saying im the reason she couldn't do anything she wanted in life.. even wen i told her about an incident of sexual abuse to her, she just said to me that it happened to her and its not a big deal.. this led me to have several incidents of sexual abuse becoz she said its okay and she told me not to say to my dad becoz he will get angry.. so i never said to my dad abt any form of abuse i had.. physically im not doing good too.. im in a chronic stage of an illness.. recently I've been having an urge to kill myself.. all the trauma she did to me keeps coming back.. i have a lovely boyfriend and i have discussed abt this with him a lot and he has helped me out throughout.. but the trauma never goes away.. every night it keeps coming back at me and haunts me.. im not able to focus on my life, my work.. i hate my narcissistic mom so much.. wen will these trauma go away??? I tried to talk with my mom abt the things she did but she says it was all becoz she wanted to make me strong.. but i didnt want to be strong.. i wanted to be the small little girl.. and becoz of her I've been through so much shit that just broke me down and let other people use me up.. wen will even come out of this? Everytime i see her it reminds me of all the things she did to me and all that she is doing now.. i wanna run away from her but i cant.. 

Mental Health

Am i a bad child if i dont know if i have any kind of feeling towards my father? i know that he loves me its just he cant control his bad temper most of the time since i was a child and done unreasonable stuffs in result. 

Family

I'm 25 years old. My father has never taken any responsibility on me. Should I continue staying at home or just move out?

Anxiety

I have a huge issue about argues, i do not like them i above them. I remember my parents they had problems and i used to hide my mother about things to avoid her to start shouting to my dad. Every day i was afraid of that moments of shouts and fights. I was 6 years old and i was able to know that an action may cause a fight. The worst day of my life was the day i had beg my mother to stop fighting and she told me to shut up and said that i cried for stupid things. In that moment she did not care about me, or the day that i locked myself in my bedroom and i was watching tv and i looked through the window, and i found my dad bleeding and leaving home. He would always call and my mother would take the call and hung up. My dad was always there for me. I was 6 years old and i knew everything about my parents. My mother used to use a dating app and talk with men. And then she would blame my dad about very small things. on the top of dad she would throw him stuff and make him bleed. I saw it. I saw my mother going to social services and say that my dad was abusive. Absolutely a lie, i was there my dad never shout at her, never hit her, never. For some reason they never did something. So many time i compare myself to my dad in this situation. Everytime my mom shout at me and she would provoque me, i would stare at her and do not say anything, because i am tired. I cry at night and at the morning i have to smile as nothing happened.

sometimes you just want someone to help you, listen to you, love you. not always a girl. your family, you do everything even sometimes you make up things so that it will make your father proud and others will not look down upon him, just to make him happy and you realize that just seeing your father happy makes you happy. but you also want someone to listen to you in your dark times and in spite of that he is way more welcoming than many others but still you were not raised that way so still if you want him to listen, you won't be able to speak.

Life

This maybe boring if you don't like reading long texts. I wanna un-bottled up.
When i was around 9 my family wasn't so great my father had drinking problem. My mom was sick of it and me my mom kind of left dad for about 2 years or so. During time when he was drinking my mom and father fight but my dad wasn't abusive nor he would curse when he gets drunk. In those days we were living with the mom's side of relatives. I often gets scolded about my dad's drinking problem by my aunts. Also at around 6 i didn't wanted to go to school but my aunt forced me to. As a kid i was afraid and then she hit with a really big wood relatively larger and heavier than 3 baseball bats. While i was getting hit and crying i looked over to my mother she was cooking in the kitchen. I asked for help but looked at me with a smile and ignored me. At around 9 my family got together we were living in harmony when my dad gets drunk he used to come to me and say how much he loves me and also does the same thing to mom. One day stray puppy was dying my dad looked after it and found a rubber band tied around its neck. He asked me if i did it.  I said no. He was suspicious but truly to this day i am not sure if i did it. It started hunting When i was 10.  As a silly kid i was doing silly things . One day i found 3 used batteries. I put wires and tapes at each ends and plugged in thinking it would charged the batteries ofcourse batteries exploded. Dad heard and hit me for doing such stupid act well i kinda deserved it but the moment he accused me killing a pup in the past.  I got mad and got traumatised. Now we live happily both my family and relatives.  But whenever i argue with a family member . I just ignore them or even sometimea i juts walk outta the house. I don't feel attached to anyone not even my parents. I kinda feel peaceful when i'm living alone except only problem is night anxiety.

Smoking

So I am getting affected coz of this person. He is my dad. I dont like him Coz many things have happened and he is toxic. He is impressive to outer world and shitty at home. He perfers my brother more and He dont talk to me Nicely. He is like daughters are dumb and I cant do anything in my life. He dosent support me anything nor do he talks To me nicely. More to that He keeps on doing Things which he knows maybe will effect me or annoy me. Like caring more for My brother and all. He does all this and never appreciates Me . I am just done feeling this way. 

Parenting

Well it's been a over a year I lost my mother and I still can't get over it but yet my father wants to marry a new women and he is making us discuss about all this shit again again . He wants our approval .
But how could I . Never I had imagined that this situation would come in my life and day by day it's just breaking me . After many discussion me and my sister agreed that go marry who every u want to but never bring her in house where  we Live in or forces us to be with her . Now he has a problem in that also . And we both are students so its not that we could leave him on his on  Because of this I am really In a bad place and all this shit is Because of my father's side they keep forcing him to get married 
I am really in a bad place because of this all my relationships with my Friends and family are effected 
Any help if anybody can 


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