How to accept something that is happening over which you have no control.
Jazz @thesadsoul
Just leave it to God and think positive. Control me toh dekho tumhare waise b kuch hai nhi toh panic krke toh kya hi krloge. Positive socho aur bhgwan g ka name lo … kyi bar hm smjh ni paate bura tym dekh k panic kr jate hain but hmein ni pta hota k God jo krte hain usme hmara kucj accha hii h. So bhgwan g ko bolo i trust u ap jo kroge accha kroge… overthink mt kro…apna mind divert kro… stay happy ☺️
Speak up … that’s difficult but it’s the only way …!!
When you don’t have control over something you have hit a wall.
You are trying to achieve something, let go of that. Feel that you are truly defeated by the wall. “Ok, Wall you win.” There’s no more conflict. Simple.
We suffer because we think we have control over life itself. Life presents itself as it sees fit for us to have the maximum benefit through evolving what we need the most. Not what we want the most.
Consequently, stop resisting the resistance to the feeling of being stuck. Be ok with having the resistance in you.
Resistance is a double-edged sword. You are either resisting pleasure or pain. Yes, it’s possible to resist the healthy pleasures that life offers due to misguided concepts or ideology. Be non-attached to whatever is the phenomenon of your life right now. It’s hard to be this way initially, but you’ll start living life this way with a proactive and constant effort initially.
Would you share what is bothering you? Anyway, hope all of this makes sense.
I wish you a great day :) Live life one day at a time and drop all your expectations of it.
Thank you… This really helps.
Whats bothering me, answer would be its like every time I found my self in a one sided love. I can’t force anyone to accept my feelings no matter how strongly i feel about them, but when the same thing happens over and over again you tend to question “are you the problem”
Hey there. You’re welcome. :)
I learned something new today called Mirror of Business. It says that how you are is what clients you attract. Be a better person to get the right client. It is also possible that a life-term client will grow subconsciously as you grow by making the right choices and discipline. When we start loving ourselves more, we feel complete with or without anyone else’s love.
I can’t force anyone to accept my feelings no matter how strongly I feel about them
You have to understand that feelings are programs. These are learned responses that have a purpose to achieve an effect on other’s feelings and to influence their feelings to satisfy our needs.
But love isn’t an emotion. This is important to understand. It’s not transitory. Love is misunderstood as infatuation, attachment, clinginess, etc. Love is a way of being. When the blocks to being loving are un-bottled, you directly experience it. This means you don’t need a person to be in a state of Love. Easier said than done, as we are trapped by our concepts of thinking we need the external to feel love or be happy etc.
You are on the right track. You are willing to give love. But you are expecting the same in return. Enter any relationships with the certainty that you don’t need love and the source is in you. What you get out of a relationship is care, consideration, and goodwill. It’s teamwork.
but when the same thing happens over and over again you tend to question “are you the problem”
What if you are the problem? Isn’t it better to know what the unconscious pattern is than be clueless about it! Life is a learning process and not that of gain. Self-awareness gives rise to self-love. The more we own our downsides the more we love ourselves and others see that in us. That is the secret to attraction. The biggest losers win if they are lifelong re-learners.
You could also be attracting the wrong partner for you. Find out what traits of your partner you didn’t like, those are the exact traits in you which you are unconscious about. Try to give up the grim satisfaction you are getting out of holding those in you.
Work more on yourself first. And on the side look for suitable partners. It’s about balance. Your priority still should be you first of all.
So when you enter into any situation with your loved one, imagine the best outcome and let go of desiring or being averse to it. Have really low expectations out of anyone and let go of trying to change others and the world. Have goodwill towards all including yourself - all the time, no matter what. Do I make sense to you?
Have a good one :)
