Hi guys, I am feeling kinda lonely nowadays even though I’m in a relationship. And it’s been about 5 months. He is a nice and understanding guy. But nowadays we don’t talk like we used to. If I text him, he replies. But if I don’t, he won’t text me whole day. He used to be the sweetest person I have ever known. Texting me all the time. telling me that he cares. I even asked him if anything is wrong and why he didn’t text. He replied that “Idk the day just passes by and I don’t have anything to say”. I don’t want to invade his private as well. It’s getting kinda confusing. Maybe I am thinking too much. Maybe I need attention. Idk. And he is my only friend so when he doesn’t talk, I’ve no one. And when I don’t talk to him I overthink. And I cry. Bad things come to my mind. Can anyone help me? I am literally clueless. Maybe I can make friends here.
Please don’t overthink. There are a lot of people out there for help. I will be your friend. Don’t think bad things. If you want you can let it out here. We are all here to help.
Hey, thank you for listening. I have a lot to say. The first thing is I am an introvert. I have never told someone how I actually feel. And I think that is why all these things are building inside me.
I doubt myself a lot. And I even know that this is not good but I still continue doing it.
It’s sad most of the days… how do you deal with this?
It’s very important to learn how to spend time with yourself. I think one of the biggest shortcomings is not being able to keep yourself happy and satisfied. Find joy in little things and cherish doing this alone - whether it is reading, cooking, or even just browsing on the internet. Take pleasure in every activity you do, and try and involve yourself with different interests.
Once you are able to be at peace with yourself, it will not bother you whether or not he replies to you. Don’t always be available for people, cultivate your own interests and take time to do your own thing.
A great way to make new friends is by finding common ground, and developing interests in shared activities. Whether it is sports, music, art, movies or culture - find things that interest you and perhaps join a forum where you can discuss these shared interests.
Oh you are right. This actually got me thinking that I don’t spend time with myself. Thank you
hi so first of all don’t think so much and try not be an introvert. make new friends and talk to your family member and whenever you feel lonely always remember you have nowandme.com to express your feelings so feel free to tell what you think and stay happy and stay safe. All the best.
Thank you so much for taking time to read it. And yeah I got your point. I feel it I will make friends here for sure.
ignore him he will chase you definetly, im a boy i know how i ignored my girlfriend because she is kinda always available so my gf ignored me and when i got that iam not getting attention and feel like noone make me happy, i appologize to her and now she is the boss.
haha… Okay I will spend time doing my stuff now. Thank you
We can be in a relationship and still feel lonely. I understand that feeling very well. The conversations start feeling like “interviews” and as if the other person is just responding to you as a Q and A.
Do you think maybe this is happening because of what is happening around the world? Due to corona and the lockdown? Maybe he is not being able to be himself because of this?