Hi everyone, i have never brought up my feelings or issue via online but i feel like talking to someone or at least share my feelings. Let me try to summarize it…
I was in a complicated relationship with my ex colleague (its complicated and wrong but is real love).
We were so in love that we stick by each other most of the times during office hours and after office hours.
Things started to change when i lost my job few months back due to covid, it was tough on us as we were not able to see each other that often anymore and it really took a toll on her, she was sad and i stood by her all the while. I couldn’t find a job for about 3 months and thats when we started to have small fights and slowly leading to bigger ones. We just couldn’t adjust to the sudden changes in us and i realise that our daily conversation somehow has changed, she stop calling me nicknames and sending her morning photos. The love basically vanished, i was so upset and did bring it up to her and discuss about it a few times. Things got better for a week or so and slowly back to how it started. So today i decided to ask her again and be honest with me if she still loves me, but she just told me she couldn’t see a future in us as we have a complicated status. I did try to convinced her not to give up on us but she knew what she wanted already but was waiting for me to say it or somehow hanging on to thin hopes, so we ended up agreeing to end this and remain as close friends. I acted like im okay but it kills me on the inside, at least i got an answer after few weeks of casual chats and cold treatment. So ya thats about it, is a long story but have to cut it short… just finding a place to spill my heart out.
Ohh ya i got myself a job this week and this shit happens today, life is unfair
Simran @st1199
Hi!
It happens. And while reading it I saw a level of maturity on your side as to you tried sorting things out, asked directly as to what she wants and told her how you felt and agreed to breakup.
You lost your job shouldn’t be the reason for her breakup (not at all, this is the time when you support each other). Congratulations on your new job!
Also, if it is meant to be together you both will else you both had a share of each other’s life and it’s better to move forward than holding onto things. Everything happens for a reason, trust that and see for yourself how things turnout to be. :)
Hi there thanks for taking your time to read through all and words of encouragement! 😊 Everything on our relationship was not like every other couple, why i said its complicated is because shes a single mother while im single and few years younger. We dont mind all of these but it was the recent changes in our lives where i lost my job at the company we worked together and my parents wasn’t please with me being with a single mother. I just couldn’t take it where we have been through so much and how things could change so quickly. She says she wants to focus on her career now which i respected that. I dont want to be judgemental but i somehow felt she shifted her focus on us to a direct selling company, she tried to pull me in a few times but I wasn’t into all those. It could be the brainwash she had about negative and people who rejected their business. I dont know if its relatable but thats how i felt
Simran @st1199
Just give time and after some weeks or a month, catch up and see what’s going on and has the thinking and surety about each other changed or both of you have moved on.
Time heals things maybe this does too. Keep patience and then try to talk to her again.
😊 thank you for your advice. I will keep in touch with her and see if there is any positive changes in near future
Simran @st1199
Yes!
I hope it helps.
