Yeah, the answer most likely depends on how old you are!

Hey..I m 24. And he is 30. I have met him once. He looked descent. But still m not sure.

Frankly even I m not sure. I mean I couldn’t ask him his age directly. So asked him his professional experience. So he stated 7+. But certainly I took buffer of 2 years just in any case.



Most importantly I don't know why but he sends text normally. Not through watsapp and stuff. And I asked him for his social media account, to which he said he doesn't use it much. And topic was closed. This things made me think a bit more.

Ig i don't mind age just the thing is what matters is how he is.. otherwise it's ok to meet but he safe 👍

If you feel safe and want to give try to this .. age doesn't matter 

In the western world, sharing information such as the reason for not getting married or a number of relationships is common. We here usually not share such info. Don't overthink here, you two have very different mindsets. Just go have dinner. Don't even think about a relationship here, it should be the ending steps of the ladder. The first step would be having a friendship. And what if he just wants to have fun with you?
Don't think of giving him a chance or stuff. Just go and enjoy the lunch.

Confusion

I miss my toxic ex real bad

Lonely

Hey guys. So a year back I went through a trauma, I ignored my emotions then, got myself busy with work and stuffs but after the COVID situation hit us all, I started to feel that, those emotions I've been running from started to come back and I was kinda sure I am not doing well. My mental health was a mess and I had no idea. so I shared some of my thoughts with my boyfriend as he is the closest person to me, surprisingly enough he replied "You're overthinking". It made me feel hurt, confused and I felt helpless. I decided to take a break from this relationship and I told that to him face to face and he replied with the same "you're overthinking, take time and sort out your thoughts, don't end a 3 year old relationship just like that", I gave it a proper thought and my thoughts were the same. This relationship was not helping me grow and I don't want to continue just because it's a 3 year old relationship. Now he doesn't wanna break up and I feel suffocated. How can a person change so much that I can't even recognize this person anymore?

Mental Health

I recently broke up with my boyfriend of almost a year. It hurts a lot and feels like hell. Even though both of us still love each other, I don’t think there’s any hope for ‘US’. He’s acting like he believes that we’ll never get back together and has sort of ruled out the possibility. Even though he tells me it’s not my fault, the reason we broke up was because I’m very impulsive and did something very stupid. Missing him, loving him and knowing that it ended because of me, all of it is weighing me down. What we had was amazing and I’m heartbroken that it’s over. My heart has broken before, because of him, even though it wasn’t really his fault. I gave him a second chance. I gave ‘US’ a second chance. And it was great. Now I feel like killing myself because it’s over. It’s the worst kind of pain for me and I don’t know how much longer I can hold myself together.

Relationships

Am crying since 3 days and not sure why I just cant stop crying and am not able to focus on my work.
There is a guy for whom I do everything possible and in return what I get is hurt and humiliation every single time. Every-time I think I should stop talking to that guy but I can’t stop since he helps me in my work and guides me because of which I just cant block him from my life.
Few days back I went on a trip with him and he shouted on me even when it wasnt my fault and disrespected me. Am feeling really sad and depressed and cannot focus on anything .
Just feeling like crying and keep on crying and that guy doesn’t seems to care about my whereabouts! and I feel as if without that guy my life would be just nothing. I just dont understand how do I get out of this vicious circle. I love my life cant see myself crying like thids




I sometimes hate my ex. 
He has completely forgotten about me. 
I hate that i still love him.
Its funny though- you love someone- supposed to be a good thing not a burden. 
And i hate myself for loving him and that too - SOO much , that I completely forgot about myself and he never chose me above himself, ofcourse one should never, but this thing just maybe reminds me of how was and am i treating myself just because i wanted him at whatever cost. 
I still love him and he seems to move on.
We talk sometimes and throughout our conversation, i just keep on wishing to hear something lovable.
Oh i feel so sick ! 🥲🥲
And he is a person who is image conscious- and whenever something nice happens he kinda act like 
“ YEAH, i am that” i mean very proudly !! 
And everytime he makes me feel as if i am behind, he always says “ once you get to go out of the house and do job, you will know then”.
Well thats ok, i will know when i have to, but he dont have to make me feel about that everytime! 
Everywork demands hard work and all the things but it doesn’t justify his actions when he makes me feel as if i dont value or i am unaware of this this job and hardwork thing. Yes, i am trying to clear my exam and i will do job but everytime, he says, YOU WILL KNOW. Just makes me so mad !
And i know, if he gets to be the RICHEST man, he will act so shit, i know, i feel as if money is like really important to him, important than a person ? How come ?
I never loved anything above him !
But for him,i wont even matter that much if he gets to be that rich !

Frustration

Iam confused.. afraid.. I loved a person..  but he don't want to marry me.  So my parents looking for alliance..  but I feel like I can't  love anyone anymore like I love the him.. Iam afraid..  I miss a partner.. but iam not sure if I could feel the love again.. 

Love

 i’m about to rant my heart out so here it goes. 

 i’ve been talking to this dude for three years now off and on.  I started talking to him when I was a freshman in high school and now I’m about to enter my senior year. I was just a baby when we started talking, I’ve had many of my firsts with him. First kiss, first guy went to second base with, first guy I fell in love with. But the problem is I didn’t fall in love with him, I fell in love with a version of him that I created in my head.  The version of him that I created in my head is sweet, kind, and caring. The real him can be that sometimes but only with evil intentions behind it. He always asks for nudes, to “get him off”.  and for a long time I agreed to be friends with benefits because I thought that maybe, just maybe one day he would start to love me back and that it wasn’t really just one-sided for all this time.  I act like I don’t care, like I’m heartless. And sometimes I genuinely don’t, it used to be worse but the past year I’ve learned that all I need is myself. But late at night when I’m by myself it’s exactly what I think about.  I am so tired of being used for my body by all these boys. And I know I have sweet ones at my feet too, but as hard as I try I can never get myself to like them and I wish I knew why. Trust me, I would like them if I could but I just can’t seem to. I only like him. It’s always been him. I hate him so much that I still love him. He’s not even  that cute, but I love every single one of his flaws. He thinks I’m dumb, that I don’t know what he’s doing. I know exactly what he’s doing and I am continuing  to let it happen but for what? I couldn’t tell you.  The end of my sophomore year before quarantine I went over to this one dudes house because I thought maybe he genuinely liked me. He acted sweet and kind in the beginning. I missed all the red flags and I don’t know why none of my friends told me anything. I went over to his house after school one day , We were watching sex education on Netflix. It’s a funny show. I had planned to maybe make out with him but nothing more than that. So we started to make out, and next thing you know he was pulling down his pants and we were at second base so I was like what the hell and I sucked his dick. Then he went down on me and it was the first guy that  has ever gone down on me before and may I add he did horribly. But that’s besides the point, after that he was on top of me mind you both are pants are off. He asks “ can I?”  knowing that I had never had sex before. I kind of mumbled a “sure”  obviously looking uncomfortable. He did it anyway. I didn’t really want to. I was so glimpse in my body language should have told him that I obviously wanted him to stop but he never did and I wanted to  say something but words couldn’t form and they never came out. I guess it wasn’t rape technically since I said sure but I wanted him to stop I was pushing him to get off of me but he was too heavy. I guess he didn’t realize. Am I just too nice of a person? Did I get raped?  i’m crying writing this because I just don’t understand what happened to me. The next day at school he unadded me and told me he was getting back with his ex girlfriend and I haven’t spoken to him since. I haven’t wanted to speak to him anyways.  he would do weird shit to me at school before that too. He grabbed my ass one time and it made me super uncomfortable which should have been obvious. Lots of things should have been obvious. But I guess some dudes are just too stupid to realize that. Or was that my fault as well? Then quarantine happened.  i’m kind of glad that quarantine happened at the time  it did. But at the same time I developed an eating disorder and lost about 30 pounds in a short period of time. I still struggle with an eating disorder, it’s not as bad as it was. But I get so mad at myself for eating too much. I ate a lot today and I feel like shit.  then don’t get me started on my toxic ass household and family. I love my grandma with all my heart but she makes these little comments all the time with what I eat. I got a prom dress the other day and she said that I better watch what I eat until prom to make sure I still fit in it. I love that woman with all my heart but why does she have to do that? My dad doesn’t know how to hold a normal conversation without screaming at me . He will scream at me for 10 minutes straight and then come back five minutes later acting like nothing ever happened trying to love upon me. I will never marry a man like my father. Are there any good guys left? That I can actually like? Or maybe I’m doomed to be alone. These are the thoughts that keep me up at night, I wish they were happy ones.  I miss being a little girl and having innocent thoughts before going to bed. Dreaming about pirate ships and mermaids and being so excited to go to school the next day and see my best friends. I don’t even go to school anymore, and my grades are horrible. We only have like a week of school left and I have no motivation to fix my grades whatsoever but I need to. I need to so I can get into a good college and move far far away get away from this life that I’m living now.  that’s the sliver of hope that I’m holding onto. Because right now, and for the past few weeks I genuinely have not wanted to be on this earth. I’m staying for my best friend, dog, and grandma. And that small sliver of hope that one day I will have a new life. 

Exhausted

My ex and my current have the same name..... How weird is that? 

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