hey there!
umm i am feeling like shit because today’s my ex’s birthday, i didn’t care about it at all until i saw his friends’ story and they made video for him and i saw him, it was the feeling of jealousy in me. Idc if he has gf or anything. It is just that i saw him in is ‘glow up’ version which made me jealous, sad and felt like crying. I mean, that’s good that he had glowed up and all. Good for him! but what really making think and hate myself is, he was the wrong one relationship. He made me uncomfortable, he told i was boring in front of everyone, he did so many wrong things, he had a crush on another girl when he was with me but still he has this glow up stage and there is me-
i feel so shitty and i feel like crying. What i’ve become? A piece of trash. NO glow up, failing my exams(not because of breakup, it was a year ago), always alone in a room, always self h*rming, always thinking about how i should die and there is a lot of things.
idk what to do. Please help me.
Hey. please dont think like that. I understand the feeling. Know that you are not alone. Karma will get him in time. You just practice self love and self compassion. Talk to yourself the way a friend will talk to you right now. You know you deserve better deep down so manifest it. I know its easier said than done but believe me i am struggling with something too but you cannot let it define you.
thank you so much bestie. you are a good person. if you wanna talk about what you are going through i am here to listen to you :)
My bf left me 20 days before marriage after a huge fight. I said some hurtful things to him but later apologized and begged him to fight for us. He put the entire blame on me and blocked me from everywhere. It has left me feeling worthless and not able to function. I am taking therapy and trying to get over it.
I am so sorry. Um I can’t relate to this but someone precious to you leaving your side or leaving your life, I can understand the pain. I am happy that you are getting therapy, and growing out of it. You deserve better and I am sure and I pray to god that someone good and caring person will come into your life (of course only if you want anyone in your life as a life partner). Stay strong, hope you have a lovely day and a beautiful future.
Hello, ok first off you need to delete his friend. Try deleting anything that has to do with him or your past with him. Also think of it this way why is he having fun and your not. Have fun live your life!
Hello, umm i can’t delete his friends because they are my friends too. And they treat me like his ex or anything. Specially one of his friend really talks to me and help a lot with my problems. I can mute them tho’ so that I can’t see their stories and all. But thank you for suggestion sometime maybe I’ll delete their contact number
This is just my opinion. No offends. Well, if I was you, I would only delete them and find new friends
um idk, the only thing i gained good from him is one of his best friends but now that i think of it I’ll delete their number.
I’ve been in that position and its shit i tell you. Look if he liked another girl while with you, he wasnt worth your amazing time or effort, Look i understand you dont know me and probably never will, but from a stranger to a stranger. You have a good heart, dont let it get shattered by an immature boy. And his “glow up” thats absolute bullshit, It doesnt matter how someone looks, its the personality and one day he’ll be a bum and nobody will want him for the way he treats people. You are wanted in this world, And listen… If you are struggling with exams and self harming, i’d really suggest seeing a doctor, i know i know, tons of people say it but i was against it and my mother forced me to go and i honestly have been doing better, people say that antidepressents dont work when they really do, so please invest a bit into that. And maybe get a therapist. Make some new friends and forget about that stupid ass boy. You are amazing
Thank you so much :)
I feel better now reading your message. It has been one year, i really forgot about and idc what he does in his life or whatever. I was bit jealous by him but now i’m fine. The thing about therapist and al, i can’t do that because a. i’ve not told my family, b. even if i tell them they don’t believe in these thing, c. they’ll just blame me, my phone, they’ll snatch my phone, they’ll shout on me for cvtting myself. Though my sister is very supportive and all, she also can’t help me either because she isn’t independent yet and and if she ask my mom for a doctor for she’ll get scolded. But still thank you for writing this whole paragraph for me. I really appreciate it. Thank you so much :)
