Hello. I’m Isaiah. I am a 13 year old who is only 106 lbs. that is way below average. Because of this I haven’t played a sport yet and it is triggering. And I feel to small…skinny. Everyone besides like 5 people at school think I’m weird. I don’t even know why. It annoys me because I want to have lots of friends. But since people think I’m weird they won’t get near me. It sucks. Please if you have relatable problems my Instagram is @isaiah_x1 and my Snapchat is @lorenzkill30. Please reach out
Kavya Ganesh @kavyaganesh
It’s important to ask oneself questions about why they want what they want. For example, why do I want a lot of friends? What comes first to me, quantity or quality?
As for your weight… I get it. Though I’m on the other end of the spectrum, by which I mean I’m fat, I understand how it can make people feel like an outcast, even if people don’t deliberately shame you. I’ve felt like that throughout different phases of my life, and it doesn’t feel good at all.
In my case, what I’ve noticed is that I myself tend to shy away from opportunities, regarding making friends or events, because of my insecurity about my weight and how I look, I just felt I wasn’t cool enough. It might be different for you, maybe people actually bully you for the way you look, and that sounds tough. Bottom line is that it’s important to try to constantly keep putting yourself out there even though it’s scary and uncomfortable. People won’t know you want to be friends with them unless you actively tell them that.
In the meantime, try to figure out the things you like about yourself or find interesting. Develop skills which you’re naturally interested in, so that it makes you happy about yourself and your own growth. You and your friends have just becomes teens, and as a teen it’s difficult to understand and appreciate differences in people. Today someone might avoid you because they think you look different, tomorrow you might feel like avoiding someone because they seem too chit chatty, or something like that. These are turbulent times, it takes time for teens to become understanding and caring and loving.
Try to find love within yourself, and trust that things will eventually become better, with a little bit of effort.
PS. If they still treat you badly, don’t ever think it’s your fault. It’s their fault for not looking beyond your appearance.
PPS. Even if you feel you look weird now, just wait for puberty to hit you like a train and give you a glow up. It’ll take a few years, but it’ll be worth it.
