Has anybody ever forgiven their cheating boyfriend? (Like when he was the one who came clean and has been apologizing ever since)
His actions changed after that? Or they are same
He’s been trying to make up for it. But I haven’t taken him back yet
Give him a chance if only he makes sure that it won’t be repeated again
You think it’s worth the risk?
Sorry, i thought you are other one😂, it is worth the risk if you truly loves him and you can trust him without bringing this thing incase you guys have fights in future. In case you can control your taunts or reminding him of what he did, you can go else red flag .
But why would reminding him be a red flag? Isn’t it good to let him know that what he did hurt me?
mistakes happen, but if you keep reminding him or keep bringing this thing again and again in your fight or talks, it gets toxic usually,
Toxic how?
and haven’t you already made him realise enough that he did a mistake?? Forgive him and start again, dear
I don’t want him to ever forget that he made a mistake.
there will be time, when you will make a mistake he will remind you for the same and you both will start taking notes of each other’s mistakes. you both will start fighting more and more and instead of solving you both be yourselves creating reasons for breaking up with each other. Forgiving doesnt make you small. Just make sure he really accepts his mistake and isnt just sugarcoating things.
Ohh if that’s the case, do your parents remind you of mistakes you did when you were a kid? did your teacher remind you everyday that you misspelled a word when you were learning things? did your friend remind you everyday about any mistake you might done? No, right? Say to yourself that you forgive him and trust him , and make him a promise that you wont bring this mistake in any fight, untill he does the same mistake again. if you want a long lasting relationship .
But those mistakes you mentioned, those were made by kids. My boyfriend is a full grown adult.
😂Please you shouldn’t go for him i cant lecture you more to forgive him and give him another chance. Totally your decision. Even adults make mistakes. No one’s perfect , girl. Ask your mum if your father has made any mistake as an adult or if she has made any?. You are living in an illusion that everyone is perfect. wake up from dream.
:( that was mean
You either have to trust him or trust in illusion you have of a perfect human being. If he truly regrets it please give him a chance. Please.
Honestly no. He wouldn’t have made such a mistake if he really loved me.
He knew what he did but proceeded to go through with the cheating.
You deserve better than him!
But what if I won’t find anyone better? What if he really just made a mistake because he was at his lowest?
I’m sure you will find someone better. You shouldn’t let that be the reason you stay with him.
If he was at his lowest, should he have been leaning on u instead of cheating?
He should have gone to u cos that’s what you do in relationships when you feel low
That’s very true :( I don’t know. It’s all just so complicated. I just wish he hadn’t done it. Everything else would’ve been forgivable.
Yh I know. He should never have cheated. That broke your trust that been built up from the start of your relationship. He chose to let that break when he cheated.
I really don’t understand what they get out of cheating.
Yeah. I don’t know either. He swears it was a mistake and has been trying to make up for it ever since he came clean. He even messaged the other girl telling her that she was a mistake and would never compare to me and that he was so sorry he ever let himself do this to me.
But do u think he really means it? Do u think he’ll stand by his word. I really hope he doesn’t break ur heart again. But ultimately it’s up to you. Allow him to continue to make up for it, honestly he’ll be making up for that mistake for your whole relationship to be honest
I think he does. I see the regret and shame in his eyes. But you’re right, the trust I had in him is gone. And I don’t know how long it’ll take to rebuild that.
Exactly! And there’s no rush in deciding what you want. Take your time, let him wait. The break you need from him while also allow him to still understand the detriment of what he did.
Yeah that’s true. You’re right. If I ever do decide to take him back though, what does that say about me? :(
Nope. Once a cheater always a cheater. They might change and you might forgive but once you do that, they will take it for granted thinking you will forgive again no matter. It’s nonsense. Self respect dude.
