Going through a bad breakup.In depression since 3 months.Not able to move on.I’m stuck. Hoping that someone will come and rescue me, I don’t think that s gonna happen though. No one’s here who can understand this they’re either too busy to give a shit or don’t give a shit .?
breakups are hard buddy, messy, painful … not easy at all … in fact I have read online that it CAN take up to 3 months to get over a breakup but if you feel that the depression has been lingering on for far too long it’s not a bad idea to consult a therapist, they can be there through your healing process and maybe just make it a bit more bearable for you.
i’m here with you, you don’t have to feel alone, you can talk about it here.
but rescuing is something that you will have to for yourself, someone can pass you the lifejacket, but you will have to wear it on your own. Don’t worry, you CAN do it, put your thoughts into yes I will and want to get over this breakup, will take time won’t lie, but it is definitely possible. just don’t give up on the thought of it. sending you some hugs and strength.
I was almost out of that breakup phase until , she came back. That chapter got reopened when we met again as trainees in the same organisation , we now work at the same place , even our new friend circle is same. The guy she’s dating , we used to friends , brothers I would say.
What’s more disappointing is she abandoned me when I needed her the most. I was sick for 9 months , that’s when she left . 3 years of relationship gone, finished as if nothing ever happened. She cheated , while I was sick,suffering. I don’t want her back , I know she’s not the one . I think I’m just hurt and the rest I can’t figure out.
happens, when we’re truly, deeply attached. it takes extra effort to let go of it. and any presence of theirs brings back those memories, making it hard. it hurts when friends betray too, right? it was the same for me. we had the same friend circle, and my friends chose to not take my side… it’s so sick of people to just not care about other people’s feelings. idk how they do that, are they immune to being good?i know you don’t want her back, but i know it still hurts. it’ll always feel bad. intensity will definitely reduce with time, but it will never be pleasant or positive. you will just grow indifferent with time. so i think you are on the right track to bring yourself out of it. good job. you don’t need to figure out anything. just allow yourself to feel the grief of it and to then move on and to not keep circling around the same sad thoughts. that’s it, that’s all you gotta do. just breathe and keep mo ?
This makes a lot of sense.Thanks!
Hello dear, it’s sad that you broke up but depression is not the solution. It’s since three months of you like this to take stress. Don’t pay too much stress on that relation as it is there no more. Try to move on as soon as possible. Be positive and move ahead. All the best.
I’m trying really hard , but depression is getting the best of me . Hoping for the best. Thanks!
Hey… Don’t worry. And don’t be sad you will be fine. Just take your time. I know breakups hurts most and its a sad time of life. But try to move on and keep yourself busy with different things.
It’s hard you know , getting out of bed is itself struggle these days .Don’t feel like doing anything I’ve lost interest in almost everything I used to find joy in.Still I’m trying my best ,thanks!
The proven truth is that most of the formulas you get from people seldom work. Which does not mean there is no hope… I am not talking religion here… but a definite system to understand your situation and seeing unwanted elements coming out of it. I am ready to sit with you over a cup of tea.
That would help a lot.
Was the relationship bad or just the break up?..not able to move on or move out?
if youre not having to live with this person…youll do better to move on…and the depression WILL stop…but never base your happiness on needing to be with someone…some relationships work out and some dont but you have to love YOU regardless of a relationship working or not…besides…if you and someone isnt getting along…its a sign that you SHOULD move on so that someone will sooner or later find your heart and treat it the way you want and deserve than to stay and try to force something that was never there in the first place.
just the break up , relationship was wonderful. Not being able to move on cause we work for the same organization we also live near by and have many mutual friends so it is hard to avoid her but I’m doing my best . Good thing is I’m out of depression and I hope I’ll be out of this mess soon.