John @onwi
Wow this is a first timer for me doing this kind of blog stuff. Anyways I’ve been to Erasmus and met this girl there from Germany, I’m living in Belgium. We had a great time together and kept seeing each other after Erasmus. The times we met up ( 2 weeks in total ) was really nice and the love was there as well, but now 2 months back she decided to “break-up” even though it wasn’t an official relationship yet.
We have known each other since the first day of Erasmus so 8 months in total. What I hate so much about this breakup is that the distance is the only factor why we decided to stop trying. Everything else is super good. It was the first time in a long time I felt like there was a future even though she was living that far (6 hours drive).
We broke up in really good terms, since we like each other and the distance is the only problem. I’m starting my masters after this year and she is already working, but maybe wants to change jobs. That’s why I’m still really hoping she is going to get back to me and say “sorry I made the wrong choice and want to keep trying”. Now I have a no contact, because I need to get my head straight. Do you guys think it’s a false hope to wait for her to reach out? I really like her even though we know each other relatively short.
John @onwi
Sorry to hear that Sarah, thanks for reaching out. When did you guys decide to break-up?
John @onwi
Happy it worked out to be a friendship in the end (at least kind of). Tried to connect to you, but not possible yet. Anyways for me it’s really the mindset of “why ending things, when we still have a great time together” but hers was more “I don’t see a far future together and I can’t handle that”. Have to say she is 3 years older and already working, so her life phase is a bit different. Have you ever had that doubt and how did you handle it back then?
John @onwi
True, as far as I know she doesn’t have a crystal ball 😉. We had a bit of contact yesterday and her message was really implying that her heart was still wanting me, but her head was constantly telling her in the long run the chances are small for it to work.
And she has a bit of a hard time at work and in her life atm, so I really hope she’s going to change her mind. But I don’t know whether I should seek contact or wait for a couple of days to see if she really misses me.
John @onwi
I really appreciate this. It almost looks like you have that cristal ball haha. Well she really chose her head instead of her heart and I don’t know if that’s going to change, since I already told her that the time we have together now is really good. She is a bit of a realist tbh. What do you think is enough time for her to think about this stuff? I don’t want her to think if it’s too long “okay so that’s how much he appreciates me…”
John @onwi
Thanks! I thought about 2/3 days as well so will reach out to her on Wednesday or something. Probably connection takes some time on this platform…
If we’re connected I’ll tell you the whole story, since there is a bit of background to this 😅. Anyways, I hope she’s going to figure this out. In the end I really want her to be happy either way.
