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Why is it that you love someone who said she loves you too but still hurted you so so much and also claims to love you! I dated one girl twice like for 1st time she hurted me and was not in love and left me. Second time after years i thought now she loves me but after sometime again the same things leaving me for other friends and everyone. And still claimed that she loves me. Why?
After sometime it seemed like she enjoying and intentionally doing things to hurt me. The thing that kept me was that she too cried on call that made me feel as if she loves me. But still.
One day after fight it seemed she’s just fine. Not by seeing. But because i saw her laughing with friends so loud and that too everyday after every fight. It was so genuine laugh as if i didn’t matter. And after confronting i only got the answer that i hide my emotions.
I just wanna know why people who hurt you are soooo fuckin happy than youu who deserves better than them. You know you deserve better but still you’re not hapoy or anything but to see the one who claimed to love you for like 2 years but still acts and do things that quite obvious says that she never cared although you know she never did. But still you’re fucked up. Nobody after hours or one day go with friends and laugh so hard even if the person that is me in this situation is in front of her. How can someone be like this bullshit. Please give me some things i want to know why she’s so happy as if nothing happened and i am numb. Just don’t say try ti do things to make you happy and other obvious things plzzzz.

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Anonymous

Bro to be honest you can not control someone else’s way of being emotional. After a fight you get depressed doesn’t mean she has to react in a same way. A very off reference from my life my mom left me few days back rather than being devastated I am finding ways to laugh with my family and make them happy and self too. Does it in any way mean I didn’t love my mom. I was the most closest to her and she was to me. So everyone has different way to deal the pain. See other factors how she treats you supports you after two years is again with you trust me girls have plenty of options but she chooses you again. Doesn’t it mean she loves you. Talk to her in a polite way understand her maje her understand things. Nothing is perfect in this world you both choose to make it perfect and it won’t be a cake walk all nice romantic things always. Sometimes it will be hard to hold on to each other choose to hold on then think you deserve better.

I am sorry to offend but be open minded discuss and sort than giving up easily. And when you feel you can’t move on and don’t look back again. You dated her again because you loved her.

Anonymous

So sorry to hear about your mom. More power to you and your family brother. May her soul rest in peace💟.
Coming to your reply. Bro i know it’s never easy to make a relationship successful. But the thing is the two years i refered had so much things and you know what everyday was a new thing i discovered whether its about lies, ignorance, choosing other boys yes boys especially and other friends, like everyday she chose someone over me and to be more precise there was one best friend but that she chose me over first time of relationship but this time her best friend chose other girl over her. I was relieved that he’s gone and now she’ll choose me but then there was another boy she found like wtf. Yk she liked him earlier when our first breakup happener. She told me herself and then one day she without even telling me eent to learn bike from him like the same day she told me she wants to meet me so badly but in morning it was not possible but in evening she had Holiday in tution she could have told me bcz i was free only but no sje didn’t even told me that she’s free not even a single text later she called me laughing with her friends that should i tell you one thing noo I won’t, you’ll react. If youre indian than she said tereko ek bat batau tu react krega chd meine bike seekhi govinda s. I was so broken and was crying like that phase yk you can’t speak because you’re hurt and if you speak you’ll cry loudly she ignored my that feeling and she cut the phn just by saying I’m with friends bye. I still have her call recording from that day. This is only one thing I’ve told you sooo many things happened everyday i mean it every fuckin day that hurted me and she knew it. Because if you notice she said in above that you’ll react i won’t tell you. Still she did everything. I can’t tell you everything bcz it’ll take years to write.i know my mistake was to forgive her the same day whether she was the one who blocked me on WhatsApp to talk to other in day even if it was her fault. And then she came to me at night that talk to me baat kr mujhse. And i forgave her easily i was soo stupid foolish chutiya to do that. Now i hope you understand what i mean brother.sorry for this big para

Anonymous

Bro i had a similar person in life thankfully she didn’t agree to be in a relationship with me and now listening to you I am thanking my stars

So from my previous post and after listening to your reply

I know there will be people who would moral police me as giving a wrong advice. My advice to you is it would be hard for you to leave her instantly. Do what she is doing with you keep your options open. Don’t make your life encircled just arround her. Talk to other girls too as she does with other guys. She choose another guy over you. You choose too. People will say what might be the difference in you and her or you would end up hurting someone innocent the world never worked this way. It didn’t for me either bro. And someday you get someone who can understand you switch. And trust me if you don’t you soon goona have a breakup. Trust me and as you are equally sensitive like me. You will be fucking up your mental peace soon.

Anonymous

I forgot to mention that we did breakup. It’s been 5 months now since our breakup. But i stalk her that the reason i got to know things like she’s happy talking to the one she said don’t matter in her life. But look I’m in her block list since 5 months and there she’s talking to them only. And meeting people and clicking hot revealing picture and showing to everybody.that hurts me although i am the one who’s stalking but still i feel like was anything she said did even true? Our kisses cuddling were just amusement to her? I was just the one who helped her physically and emotionally when she needed? Bcz she was never when i needed her even i have many family problems she knew all. Rather than helping made mockery of my misery and problem and broke me into pieces more. Like she just used me. Irony is she texted me when red fort riot happened bcz i was traveling that she got to know from my friends story. Like what the fuck she was thinking to even text me? Like after all those things she cared that what she wanted to tell? Isn’t it ironical? That you chose other boys over me made my life more hell and you showed up one day to show care and that too to my friend not even me. Like she laughing with her friends over my condition…

Anonymous

See she cares that’s her side and upto you whether you wanna text or not. And i know you wanna text her whatever you say have been there done that. But bro don’t get stuck at her move one. What’s your age??? Do you have someone you can be with or try tinder. Or @nowandme team we need a similar site where heart broken people can find other heart broken people to be with better than tinder app because tinder doesn’t work for guys like us to be very honest and it would be a similar to the mental peace we might get here because it is the loneliness that sucks. And bro try very hard to move on. And that is the best solution. Girls have more options than us so she is gonna all that things you finding hard. And she will have an easy move on. You have to ease yourself and really find someone.

Anonymous

It’s just i don’t wanna try so soon. I’ll take my time first I’ll heal then I’ll think about needing someone because when i needed her she made me worse so now I’m numb and take my pain problem myself only.mmm

Anonymous

bro it is your call, everyone heals differently but for me having someone besides is a peace of mind I don’t know how long she is gonna stay but it is healing me. I am liking myself.

Anonymous

Well hope you heal soon enough and ya don’t let her treat you like shit. Wish you a good life ahead 💟

Anonymous

na not gonna let anyone ever do that again bro!!!
wish the same for you and also you can message or text anytime you can drop a message here

Anonymous

Sure brother i will