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How do I get over someone who is not willing to make commitment but wants to hang out w me as nothing but friends? 

I've known this guy. he is my workmate, i have a crush on him. but we never talked before this. he just messaged me regarding work things. sometimes he just left me in seen. but I've caught him several times staring at me. now I'm confused, should i approach him or just ignore him bcs that's normal for a guy to stare at a girl? 

Confusion

I'm missing my boyfriend, actually I wanted to part away with him, at that time we both moved on with some one else, but the hurt fact is i was just a friend with the other guy with whom I tried to move on but my boyfriend had a physical relationship with other girl.
I know there is no point of sharing this but don't know why deep down I'm missing him. I know that too he is very happy with other girl he didn't even care if i cry infront of him .

Hi everyone or maybe noone
I came across this website on instagram just a minute ago and I wanted to share something that I don't know if I can share with anyone or not.
So, I am 21 and I had one relationship till now. He is from my college and we just knew each other and started talking through chats. I don't even know anything about how I felt then or what I am even feeling now. It was all good in the starting. He is a really good guy and takes care of a lot of stuff. But, even after I had everything I felt I do not have something that I am looking for.
It was all fine in the starting I felt I am in the seventh heaven but I felt it was all too stagnant for me. I felt I didn't grow in the way I would have wanted to. Maybe that's because I wasn't so mature back then, but idk, something just doesn't feel right in place about this whole thing to me. 
I never realised this before but I felt there was something somewhere inside me that I was not acknowledging. There was something that told me that this relationship is becoming very one sided and I am on the other side. He is a good person and I didn't want to hurt him in any way but even after trying I figured that the happiness that I was getting out of it was very much temporary. I felt lonely as if I do not have anyone who can really understand me without me having to spell everything out every single time, it is just so exhausting trying to translate everything inside my mind but same cycle just repeating every time. It was almost like we speak different languages. 
I came across all this when I came back home and had some time alone. I felt very bad because at one end I have this guy who is very attached to me but is not mature enough to understand me,(he says he will but I am tired of the same cycle repeating, plus he asks me to help him get emotionally mature and he asks me a lot of things that I don't think are possible for anyone from same age group, I really do not believe it is someone else's responsibility or duty to make someone or change anyone, everyone has their journey and everyone is responsible for themselves. Asking this everytime just feels so selfish or maybe ignorant, idk) and on the other hand I have me. I have me who can understand myself and want to become the best version of myself. So I took a break then, told him everything in every possible detail about how I was feeling but as usual he didn't understand anything. Rather, after some days as he was insisting alot, I felt bad and started talking with him once again in the hope that everything would be fine. But no. What happened was rather worse. It seems after some days he ghosted me out completely after an Instagram message that was very stupid and wasn't even serious. Instead of telling me, he actually ghosted me out and didn't message. Had I been in college or had I been the old me, I would have went after him even if I didn't do anything wrong. But this time, I was done ignoring myself and I felt let's take a step back and see what happens. Guess what, I never got any message. And mind you, this was a one and a half year relationship that was actually termed as forever and different. 
What hurt me the most was that he didn't speak my language(philosophically). I had to translate my soul, my thoughts in a language that he could understand and that too ended in him never understanding it. 
He tried to talk after four months. (I actually tried to reach him out three times in between in the hope of atleast sorting things out as friends but he was willing to listen words from old me like some apology or maybe taking all the blame on myself but I didn't do, that's why he didn't talk I think). After he reached out, we called and it was not nice because all I could here was him saying how much he is hurt and how much everything was happening as if I wasn't even affected and I was the one who did all this with sole responsibility, but that's not the point.
The point is after I gave him a chance again, I still didn't like it. He told he will change himself and he asked me after every message to make him change. I mean how tf that works. I am looking for a partner and not a child. I cannot absorb the emotional responsibility of anyone and especially if the person expects me and only me to help this relationship run. This is not a mature relationship at all. This is just puppy love. And the kind of pressure he put on me with so many things like please a hundred times and 100 long paragraphs, I had to say yes, definitely not willingly tho. But I hoped, what if it actually works this time.
But no, it all started again, me starting to feel lonely and having to message him 24 7 like nothing happened. The point is, he still didn't get it and I think he never will. So I had to cut it off because he was not giving me any happiness. I broke up over a small issue because that's what he understands.
I don't know how I feel because sometimes I feel bad because I should have done things differently from starting so that the ending won't be so bad but I wasn't so mature back then. But I feel happy sometimes too because I got me which I longed for through the years. 
I still do not know if I am a terrible person with terrible relationships but that's how my story is. I hope I find clarity someday and get things in order around and inside me.

Hi
Just had a good long cry of around an hour....
I am Sick of crying... I feel so damn suffocated now.. Still unable to sleep. 
How can he so easily marry someone else after being with me for so many years. And then say sorry my parents never listen to me.. 
And he still wants to talk to me as if nothing happened. And that he will still love me forever as this marriage is something he never wanted..
And I am still dumb enough that my heart still love him and still has that 1% hope that maybe yes he still loves me and idk how I still want to hug him and cry like a baby and say everything that I feel And tell him that how he didn't love me. And at the same time I wish to just vanish and never answer any of his phone calls. But on the other hand I still wish he calls me and says that i fooled u it was a bad prank. Wish everything could become the same. It is becoming more and more hard for me.. I miss us. I miss all the years we spent together. Now I feel I was so much happier when I was alone before he came to my life. I wasn't even interested in this relationship shit. And now my only serious relationship broke me to an extent that now I might never trust anyone else this much.
I already had trust issues as my father treated my mom so bad.. My mom suffered so much and I thought I would never be able to be in relationship with anyone.. Then he came to my life and I rejected him once as I was scared but then he came back again after some time and made me fall for him just to leave me in pieces at the end and marry someone else whom his parents chose. I know we had caste issues but why couldn't he give me the time to get a job and then fight for us. He gave up. I think I am never going to trust anyone now. Nobody will ever come this close to me now. It's hard for me now.. Why.. Why did u build that trust and hopes that u will marry me and then left me broken.. Why. I hate myself for still wanting u. Now I am writing all this here coz I don't have to courage to say everything that I feel to u now and I think maybe it would hardly affect u bcoz u have started a new life with someone else..  Even when u say that u are hurt but why is it so difficult for me to believe it... Why do I feel that u never loved me u just used me.. Why.. Why did u gave me hopes with no intention of staying. 

i broke up with my boyfriend of 4 years and i’m falling apart. I know why i did it but sometimes it’s just too hard. it’s been 10 months and i’m still so fucked up. He used to manipulate me into doing things i didnt want to do in the first place, physically abuses and sexually pressurises me. Yet i dont know why i still love him and have no self respect whatsoever. He made me believe that i was unlovable..like he literally told it to my face and that the only person who would love me is him, no matter what happens. so imagine how my heart would have felt!! like nobody loves me but he does despite all of my ugliness. i’m still struggling so hard and i dont know how this thing works so i’m just trying it out. but i think i went a little extreme hahah

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