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Aarnavi21 @aarnavi21

Why do people judge us by our looks? Recently,everyone that i meet behave like I’m a frump.i know how I look and I have accepted that.It is something that I can’t change.Till now,I never thought looks mattered.But I feel really very suffocated when people behave with me like that.it has pushed me to my lowest self esteem.Is it my fault that I don’t look pleasant?Ofcourse,we humans notice looks first in a person.But bringing that thing up all the time…it pains…it aches my heart.i’ve had better standards and expectations in life about everything that I do.But now I always feel that I don’t deserve this.im too low to to think about this…its hurts…it hurts badly…very badly…so come out of this I tried finding friends online but everyone I met weren’t right.i mean to say…either they were rude or pretentious or I don’t like them.I realised that it’s better to stay yourself…rather than desperately finding people.

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Anonymous

according to me
yes i do accept that looks matters but just for a temporary time
i mean suppose I met 10 new girls today and we have a tendency to get attracted towards the good looking but that attraction is temporary
now what happens is i slowly start talking to them but the good looking ones don’t vibe with me and i can’t personally enjoy being with them then eventually I’ll be the ones who’s looking normal
ab yrr see at the end what matters is personality we cannot just get to spend our whole life with a person who’s just good looking and lacks a good nature
and if you have a good and pure heart trust me in long term people are gonna like you
people are gonna love your heart first and then eventually you’ll look good to them
i mean this is what happens mostly

Aarnavi21 @aarnavi21

Yeah…I agree

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Anonymous

what’s your age btw ?

Aarnavi21 @aarnavi21

19

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Anonymous

ohhk

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Anonymous

I completely agree with u. But i have noticed one thing with good looking people is that they sometimes show true colors like they would behave as if they are good by heart and all kind shitx. and behind they are just completely opossite they would disgrace each other & behave differently with poor people (ex. not understanding their lifestyle & acting rudely with them.Just because they are good looking dose not mean they have treat other differently because they dont match their standards.

Aarnavi21 @aarnavi21

Yeah

@kritikaganguly

Hi arnavi! I am the same age as you.Looks dont matter. Humans are very subconsciously strong animals. They sense how you are feeling about a particular trait/subject and if they find out through your body language that youre insecure about a particular trait or subject then the constantly bring that up and try to make them selves feel “superior”. Thats human nature. So youre not ugly, you think that youre ugly and hence your body starts to believe that youre ugly so you slouch or try to hide. Other people notice this behaviour. Now here are a few things that you have to do daili: 1. Buy expensive clothes and accessories that fit you well. 2. Do a skincare routine or just take a bath right now. 3. Everyday tell yourself " I AM THE MOST BEAUTIFUL GIRL ON THIS PLANET" even if you dont believe it then also say it to yourself. You brain does not understand a lie. It believes what it hears

Aarnavi21 @aarnavi21

Thank you very much!!!Your words mean a lot…

@kritikaganguly

I read some of your other post as well. I am also going to a medical college this year. Do keep in touch with me and tell me how you feel after trying these methods.

Aarnavi21 @aarnavi21

Sure

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Keerthan @ks

Great reply✨✅

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Keerthan @ks

Hey hey… don’t come to that conclusion my frnd✨.
Life is beautiful 🍃🔥
We can have a chat🤜🤛🎉ping me

Aarnavi21 @aarnavi21

Sure

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