why do Indian parents want their daughters to get married by 25?koi government rule hai?Koi policy hai?Is age ke andar kro toh discount milta h ya extra pasie milte hai?what is it?
Its frustrating when all you wanna do I get a good job and make your parents proud,but all they are worried about is shaadi kr lo 25 tk vrna fir ladka sahi nin milega?
How are people so sure that guys of the age 26-28 are the good ones and use baad vaale sb bekaar hote hai?Its always better if the guy you marry is minimum 2-3 years older to you,cause then at least one of them is the mature one in the relationship.
Another annoying this is ki we are not allowed to have fun and go on trips before marriage much specially if “guys” are there on the trip whom we have known for years and are the safest guy friend we have,but we are allowed to get married to a person we don’t know much and go on trips and do whatever we want with them… but ya,according to our parents,that’s totally safe.
When will this injustice chain break?why does a women have to get married by 25?why cnt she live freely like a son and do what she likes and take care of herself and her family?
SOMETHING @littlelord125
My sister is also facing from same issue I Guess there is MAJORRRRRR issue with Indian parents and their mindset
what has she been doing to avoid this with her parents ?
Mine to started after my elder cousin got married.Like just 2-3 months and every relative in my family began with this .
SOMETHING @littlelord125
She is just trying to ignore them my relatives are even searching for bloody ristas for her I mean wtf they are doing who are they to decide this?
i know…i have been doing this since almost a year now.Anytime someone approaches with a rishta for me to my relatives,they start calling me again and again and do the same with my parents.I wish this pandemic wasnt going on right now,atleast then I would’nt be staying at home with my parents.I would be in the city where my office is.Then these calls can be avoided for a longer period of time.
SOMETHING @littlelord125
try to convince your parents that you don’t want to marry right now maybe they will listen you
i have been trying that for months now. All they say is u wont get a nice boy once u cross 25 .I tried telling my relatives also that I wanna focus on my career now rather than thinking about getting settled,they say u can make your career after marriage.Who would explain them that not all families think alike.My sister already has a kid now and she was pregnant in 5 months of her marriage cause of “in-laws” pressure.Who would explain all this to our parents.According to them,career is not a reason for delaying marriage.There is no winning with them.
SOMETHING @littlelord125
Sometimes indian parents are too much i mean why we have do everything according to them in my family even love marriage is not allow
Pankaj Kumar @crazyguy3495
Ahh it is frustrating actually I think sometimes whole marriage concept is crap like you wanted to marry someone who don’t even know before a day and just see and bas ab shaddi look yr shaddi toh tb hi ho na jb ready and isliye ho ki dono ko sath rhna hai ldna todi hai reproduction ke liye toh shadi nhi krni ya relatives ko khush krne ke liye look whole concept is crap for me
so true…like koi competition thodina hai shaadi krne ke liye…
Pankaj Kumar @crazyguy3495
Arey relatives and parents dono shadi ko toh ese bna lete hai jaise pta nhi one time opportunity hai after 20s toh hogi nhi don’t know kya sochte hai
exactly.Like its a shameful thing to get married after crossing 25.
Pankaj Kumar @crazyguy3495
Yup pta nhi shadi hai ya koi 100 m ki race I think shadi kr lo agr koi dang ka mile ab dang ka milna bhi difficult hai na
ladka milna is not the first priority,priority yeh honi chahiye to see if we are actually even ready to get married at this age.Life decisions to lene dete hai nai parents,us time they say we are too young to make such decisions,but shaadi ke liye we are old enough.
This hypocrisy is the reason why in India,most kids around 24 25 are frustrated to the core.
Pankaj Kumar @crazyguy3495
Look maine kafi marriages ka band bjta dekha hai and I found out ki first toh marriage ke time ladki financial independent nhi thi and second yr shadi jaldi kr dete hai then kids like that and plenty of things and 3rd marriage toh hogi hi becoz after 30s ladke bachte hi nhi look I believe shadi late ho but dang ke insaan se ho because better hai ki 30 ki age 2 kids ke sath divorce lene se yeh acha hai 30s ki age mai shadi krna
totally agreeing with this point.Its better to do what you like when you like rather than doing what you dont like and regretting it for the rest of your life
Pankaj Kumar @crazyguy3495
I think life is one way road wapis nhi aa skte bas aage hi jana hai aur future mai bhi nhi ja skte na kyoki safar bhi toh pura krna hai so yaha hai waha se hi sb theek kr skte hai so look do whatever you want because breaking rules for your own happiness is what is actually love and respect or vaise bhi ek hi life hai ya toh slave bn kr jio ya queen ban jao depend on u baki koi na koi dang ka mil hi jana hai just wait and make yourself better
totally! jo milna hai voh milke hi rhega sahi time aane par.
Kaash lekin yeh saari baatein parents samajhte.
Pankaj Kumar @crazyguy3495
Ahh parents smjhte hai but sb kuch cover krna chte hai like barrish bhi ho but ho unke according so you know ap sb kuch control nhi kr skte so usually children se puchna reh jata hai and look life Mai struggles hai har raste mai and yeh hi toh life hai yr ab yeh easy toh hogi nhi apne ap ko hi strong bna lo and vaise bhi live in present
True…we gonna have our own struggles with them and society forever.
thanks for the insights though.Felt good to share so much and to find out that there are many people in our country who are against getting married soon.Varna aaj kal to jisko dekho everyone is getting married.Even my juniors are getting married and having kids.
Pankaj Kumar @crazyguy3495
Arey shadi responsibility hai first apne apko ready krna pdta hai and second samne wala bhi dekhna pdta becoz shadi ke bd breakup wali option nhi hoti and personal experience se bolu toh ap kisi or trust nhi kr skte ki kon c moment pr kon apko leave kr de so it is like another struggle so it looks good na ki kids ho gye sb settle hai but u know kuch settle nhi hota maturity chiye yr then I don’t think kids ki jaroorat bhi pdti hai and sbse bdi baat real person is actually rare becoz personally koi kuch hota hai nd publically kuch or hi and privately toh pta nhi kuch aur hi so life is like a rain of trouble
True.its scary ki u have kids like jst in a year of marriage,but most of them are under the family pressure.
Pankaj Kumar @crazyguy3495
Cmon there is already issue of population Nd families pressurised to increase babies look there is plenty of other factor that also need to look like you need to care of that kid and spend on him and there is time shortage and look agr marriage Ka mai purpose kids produce krna hai then fir toh rhne hi do yeh sb becoz fir toh akele hi theek apni responsibility toh nibha nhi pa rhe khudh ke liye stand milta nhi Nd marriage kr lo
This thing actually is really annoying, vo samjhte nai ki it’s okay to be with them rather than getting married with someone who is not right… just bcoz ki 25 ki hogai ho…
Ye chiz parents se jayda relatives aur society ka bhara hua kachra hai humari families ke dimag mai…
Overprotective hote trips ko lekar lekin ek meeting mai decide karlo ki shadi ke liye ye sahi hai ya nai…
Khash ye chiz samjhe that we also want that freedom of making choices and living the dreams… parents open minded ho tho bhi society ke log unhe ye sub karne per majbur kar dete !!
Suffer hum kar jate ye
Exactly.Meri maan ki baat bol di tumne.
Relatives itna bhar dete hai parents ke dimaag mein ki pressure mein voh humein kehne lagte h ki ab kr lo shaadi.Since almost a year now,I have been avoiding my uncles and aunts cause normally baat kro toh shaadi ka topic khol dete hai.On my birthday this year,wish krne ke baad their immediate statement was “ab tera time limit ho gaya hai,ab shaadi ka dekhna start krna hai”…
I wish our parents understood ki if a girl wants to get married later,its fine.Its not an insulting thing for the family for a girl to get married post 25.
yeh typical thinking indian ladkon mein bhi society ki daali hui hai which is like the worst discrimination women of 27 and above face.Shaadi ke upar agar koi ladki apni family ya apne career ko priority de de,toh she dsnt get a guy to settle down with.
26 is still ok…like shaadi fix kro at 26 and get married by 27…yeh shaadi fix kro and 24 and 25 mein shaadi is not fair to the girl.Ladke toh apni life jee lete hai till 27 and then get married.
Haan bilkul sahi… just age dekh kar karlo shadi… chahe tumhe ladka pasnd aaye ya nai… aur kabhi aap mana karo kisi ladke ko tho kahne lagte kitne drame hai… kitne demands hai… Umar hojayegi tho ye bhi nai milna tho bas kar ye sub aur haan karde…
Mltb kisi ke sath bhi karlo aur society ko satisfy karne ke liye aapni life karab kardo aur bdme regret karte raho sari life ki ye kya kar diya…
Agar hum tym le sahi partner choose karo tho kya prob hai yar… age se jayda bhi bahut se factor hote jisko consider karna hota lekin nai bas age age…
Ye age ke chakar mai kuch uper niche hojaye tho koi society nai aati hume dekhne… hum suffer karte aur humari families… ye chiz humare parents samjhte nai…vo bas relatives ki sunne jate hai…
Meri family fir bhi kafi samaj jarhi ye chiz abt finding a right person and not considering this age wala chiz from last few months… kyuki vo dekh chuke kai incidents recently jaha chize workout nai hui…jaldbazi kar jo shadi hui hai… with few frds and family…
I hope ye chiz humari family support kare humko samjhe aur ye mind set change ho society ka !!
It’s not ghar wale…it’s the ppl around my family which puts pressure on them… that ladki 25-26 ki hogai n all…
And I m working, stable hu and career oriented bhi… tym ke sath family ye chiz samaj rhi…
FYI : I m not the one who posted the thought !!
I m just relating myself with the one who posted this thought
Yes maybe the next generation can have better future and freedom towards their dreams and aspirations
Agreed !! Always jayda and expectations bhi !!
It’s not frustration, but yes this do annoy us alot…
I work with multinational financial services company
Yes, can look for it…
Ohh I see…
Agreed.Society and relatives say ki jab ladka pasand aaye tb krna shaadi,lekin if you reject more than 3 guys in a row,toh savaal yeh ni hota ki tum bataao kaise type ka ladka chahiye…savaal yeh aata hai ki “what’s your problem?”.
its true that since the past decade,things are changing,but why dont our parents see that one more thing is changing,which is divorce rate.Marrying sm1 cause of family pressure leads to emotional dissatisfaction for the rest of our lives,that’s why women in this generation are boldly coming up with getting a divorce rather dan suffering for the rest of their lives.
There are things Indian parents should see ki bina understanding ke shaadi kro and by chance it dsnt work out,they end up ruining their own child’s life.
Bilkul sahi kaha… i just relate with you like completely !!
Divorce vaali baat itni bhi “non sense” nai hai…Ya in US,the rate is way more than India,but no one is comparing the two countries here,and people in US dont hesitate from getting a divorce.They prefer to stay happy rather than dragging a marriage which is only harming them.In India,divorce is still not a taken positively,so atleast what society can understand is late shaadi kro but jiske saath maan se krni ho us se kro.
Relationships end for numerous reasons,but not all relationships end,uska yaha kya link?infact relationship mein rehke if you realise that it isnt working out,you have a choice of ending it.Shaadi mein,India mein yeh option sabke paas nai hota.Har waqt you cant go with “hamari khushiya”,in every relationship,there is self respect .So at times you need to think of “meri khushiyaan”.
