Why do family expect so much out of the eldest child, i mean we also need a break we can also mess things up we too need alone time from everything is it so hard to understand
I feel you…
Anony Mouse @zapadoz
Duddeee so truee
I am also the eldest child in my family. The reason why our parents expect alot from us is because our younger brothers or sisters will eventually follow us and what we do will affect on them. So if we go on the wrong path then they will also eventually follow us thinking “there is nothing wrong in doing it as my big brother or sister is doing it too” so this way our parents wants us to make less mistakes and become responsible
I never disclose my personal life in front of them but thats not the point, the problem is i try to do for them as much as i can but still they are the one who actually scolds me as if they are the perfect onse and three people who are younger than you who are just judging you cause you took out time for yourself or dis not do something you were told for one time they all blame me as if i have murdered someone, It pinches me cause they need to respect the relation but it seems they are the one who are taking all the responsibility. I have actually stopped sitting with them now cause the way they talk to me hurts me and trust me there is nothing i have not done as an elder sister for them. I just spend time in my room now most of the time i dont feel like interacting with them anymore they are so bloody loud and judgemental.
I am having the same problem in my family but in my case both my parents are still living… I have only one brother… But its not only my brother in my case, its my parents too… They always involve me into their fights or anything… Its makes me really frustrated…what I do is nothing unfortunately… But I don’t hv any ill feelings for them or hate them… They can’t always be correct… Well… Don’t pay attention to them as to say… I do that… Well you don’t have to do everything for your siblings, do what your parents do and remember not to react fast on their actions, it will affect your relationship with them… Though they put all the responsibilities and everything on you,take it… But you also have to play in a cunning way sometimes… Maybe one day you could do all the things that they wanted to be done do it… And if still they have problems with it… Then I think that they are much grown up and can take certain decisions by themselves… Do the basic works that has to be down in the house and the rest leave it to them… Don’t pay attention so much to them… They are strong enough to stand on their own feet
I feel the same way too… pretty sure many of us feel that way. Don’t worry, I’ll pray so that you get the strength to keep going. Sometimes it’s best to just isolate yourself for a moment, get yourself together and then face them again. This thing where they keep expecting so much from us will never stop! But I guess all we can do is to try to get used to it and not let it affect our mental health too negatively. It’s important to be kind to yourself. Take care!
Thankyou, it means a lot🌼
You’re most welcome. Stay strong. Everything will be fine in due time. This phase shall pass soon… :)
Nobody is wrong here not you neither are your parents… it’s okay to mess things up… And for them you are the one whom they want to be always proud of…so anything less from you might break their heart…still never forget that no matter disappointed you make them they will never love you any less in their hearts…you are their 1st one…and the one they always look up to… don’t worry okay
Niara D @niara
Same. They just have so much expectations from us. What they don’t realise is that it creates so much mental pressure on us.
Black widow @shreya0208
Yeah that’s truee…