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@lost_queen

Whenever I try to share my feelings with my husband, he always misunderstands me and makes me feel bad. Never try to understand me. Never try to make time for me. Please suggest me something to deal with it

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@blithe_whisper

Leave him

@neo_individual

Hey
Try and see which all things that you are saying to him is that he ignores, sometimes we want to say something but the person understands it from there point of view. Just see that what you want to convey can there be a different way to convey the message, just sometimes we don’t learn a chapter in a book with bookish language but through a story same lesson can be understood. You can try different ways. Secondly you can have a sit together and then discuss this with him. Asking him to understand with full awareness and open mind. And try and tell him that when he reacts or replies how you felt at that point… No anger no frustration but a general discussion heart to heart you can have…

@lost_queen

I always try to make him understand that i am his wife and not enemy. To make everything normal we need to discuss and resolve together. But he is not ready to discuss only. Whenever i try to make him understand my feelings that i just need his time and respect. He always take it other way and think that I am blaming him

@lost_queen

Love, anger… i have tried every way but I don’t what’s wrong with him. For him he can never be wrong

@lost_queen

*dnt understand

@lost_queen

I really want to make everything normal.

@intuitive_monk

Does he really listen to you when you say anything to him

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Anonymous

No never.

@intuitive_monk

Have you make him aware that he is not listening. I would recommend you to find the remedy of it asap

@neo_individual

Try and change the method of telling him, what sometimes happen is that when you say I want respect. The other person takes it at their ego that how am I not giving respect. It is assumed by the other person as attack on them and then they shut down. That’s why I am saying you can try to change the method of telling. For example - 1. Why are you not doing this for me( u want them to do tht thing only) 2. Will you please do this for me ( same thing desire)

Like that change the approach… Kabhi kabhi life me approach badal k dekhna chahiye

@lost_queen

Thanks. Will surely try this

@neo_individual

You may also talk about that slowly that how it feels when he replies or reacts and how it is affecting your bond, ask him sometimes about his ideal view of the relation, how when he is 60/70 how does he see you both together. Then from that top brong it down and towards things that you both do things together that will make you both live and enjoy a great life together

@lost_queen

Even I wish he listens to me and try to understand me. I am ready to share and listen everything

@neo_individual

The ice braking you’ll have to do… He will listen, a little shift of approach. And more so he has shut himself up. So when someone is like that praise his positive things, bring in to light his strengths. Sometimes since childhood we are treated like we are doing wrong or not able to do things right, the approach becomes like this. You become his best supporter, best friend and then as friends do dheere se Masti me bol te hai ki dekh lo Bach gye es jgh es baar madam.
If u want to discuss u can dm too …

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Nandini @i_need_h6lp

should totally see a couples therapist ASAP. also keep a lawyer ready, just in case.

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Shivay @shivay_

Heyy are you alright.
Whats been going on in your heart.
Sorry to ask but what do you think is the reason that your partner is not ready to listen and have a heart to heart conversation

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