Whenever an unknown guy texts me and eventually I find out that he’s hitting on me, I just turn him down by saying that I’m already taken. Without even knowing about the guy I just say this to him because I feel I can’t deal with guys anymore.
Is it a good thing to lie and turn them down?
jay @jay12
Maybe and maybe not
Why so?
jay @jay12
May be you found the perfect boy for you
First you know his intentions then you can dump him
I used to do this earlier. But now I’ve experienced so much of it that I feel it’s just a waste or energy and time to talk to a guy and then find out that he’s just the same as others. Everytime i talked to someone I was never surprised coz I already knew the grind
Pam @pam96
Well i understand that you might have experienced it so much that you find it not worth to waste your energy … You should first get to know what’s the intention … some might just wanna be friends … It’s just that they keep on hitting on you so it makes you feel like this … But before just try to get to know them
But I’m very exhausted because I did it multiple times before
Pam @pam96
I understand … Don’t expect only until you feel like … If their word’s doesn’t match their action … Do what you feel like … But you yourself told is it good to lie and town down ? So yourself know it’s wrong
Maybe I should just tell them the exact thing
Simran @st1199
Hey!
Hitting on you - can you define it includes what?
And, you don’t want to be in a relationship that’s why you do it or because someone tries to approach you and you don’t know what to do next? 🙆
It includes flirting and dropping hints that they like me. But when they do it I know they just talk the talk and never turn them into actions.
It’s not like I don’t want to be in a relationship but I don’t find anything close to what I expect. Basic expectations.
Simran @st1199
So, since you don’t continue talking only how do you know they are not turned into actions rather just words?
Basic expectations include what all and in how many days/months you expect this?
No I used to spend efforts and time before. And I did this a lot of times. It’s just now that I think it’s not worth it.
Basic expectations include- loyalty, decent behaviour, and interest. I just expect these things.
Simran @st1199
Ohkay, then the time hasn’t come yet who will fulfill all this. Maybe take it slowly and explore than cutting it out.
Also, according to me, one can’t expect loyalty in few months/days.
Yeah that’s right. And I believe that everything will happen when the time is right.
Depends
