When you are emotionally and mentally mature enough to see the patterns of your familial relationships, however they may be, there is no right or wrong of how you are supposed to feel. I still feel resentful and completely appalled by family dynamics though i have the capacity to now distance myself from it. You do not have to make peace with the people, but with the situation and how it played out.
So true. I totally agree. Make peace with yourself and it makes everything better.