When a girl says that she is not happy at her in-laws place, why does everyone say “IT’S COMMON TO FEEL SO, IT IS YOUR HOUSE, THEY ARE YOUR PEOPLE YOU HAVE TO ADJUST”… Why don’t they say " We understand, what trouble are you facing? Speak out, we are there for you?"
Why there is no reassurance? Once married no matter what happens should a girl stick around the same in-laws place, where she is just treated as a paid servant, as an outsider and all alone? Is it because society accepts only those who can tolerate pain silently and die one day?
I’m clueless and extremely pained!!
That’s tough. How are you thinking of resolving this?
Tried several ways to correct married life, nothing seems to work out. Now should either end the married life no matter what society thinks and stay alone, or end my life where there is no need to relive in a society where nobody accepts a pained married and separated woman
I know it’s tough. Take some time out for this. Even if you seperate, it’s not the end of world although that should be the last thing to do. What’s ur husband take on the statement you made? What’s his view point. In society , there is a general acceptance now and moreover people are not much bothered, they are in their own life
My husband has made 1000 promises to correct this… Yet he fails to keep me happy in the end… After all he got to listen to his parents because they are parents… I wonder why people get married if they can’t handle independently…
Okay. Decide accordingly then. You are the best judge of your situation
Ask your husband to understand that if he don’t pay attention to these issue , he will lose you in emotional sense as it is giving you pain and anxiety
Yes, I have told him several times. He knows every bit… But he seems to be helpless because he fails in making his parents realise their mistakes. Ultimately I have to find peace by myself
When you guys married? Love or arrange? Have any kids?
3 years of love, married for less than a year and no kids
Then wait more, hope everything will go well. If still nothing changes and anxiety grows, choose either him or your mental peace
Those were just a beautiful and smart girl not a bold and if you want to live in your own term then you have to take stand for yourself
