What’s that 1 lesson 2021 taught you and is gonna stay with you for the rest of your life now? 

Never pour from the depth of your walls , always from the overflow- rupi kaur.

What matters, at the end of the day, is you looking out for yourself. Don't ever let yourself down:)

Prioritise yourself first
Mental health first

This world and people in it are fragile, vulnerable and temporary.

To just be who you are. That it's okay to care,to be vulnerable, okay to wear your heart on your sleeve and okay to speak what's on your mind. To never compromise with your well-being amidst this chaos.

Adulting

Dear future partner!
Hope you are not like me.
😑

Overthinking

ANY LAW STUDENT HERE IT IS BECOMING OVERWHELIMG I AM OPEN FOR RANT/VENT sessions pls thank you :)

Stress

When you tell your in-law you have work but you use your hours. 

3am Thoughts

Hi all . I am married for 8 years with 2 children . I am at the border line to get yelled out because of the tortures faced by my mother in law and the triggers she gives to my husband to beat me. My husband does nothing at home when we were in a joined family ( he , his 2 brothers) . I used to struggle with 2 kids with 2 c sections done . My mother in law is a good actor and very talented . She shows off her talents everywhere which was very visible to me . She acts as if she takes care of me in front of my husband . She supports her elder daughter in law just because she got screwed up from her elder son once for scolding her. She scolds me in front of everybody’. Everything I shared to my husband for which he said me to ignore . But now the problem has raised to a level where he beats me for everything in front of everybody if he thinks he can’t control me . My mom once came home and questioned them but she was ill treated and accused me of a bad grown up. All the maid who was there opened everything how my kids were treated and how elder sons kids were treated .  She has once strongly said ‘ get out of the house ‘. So I moved out for which all blame came to me because they turned the things against me to my husband . He begged me to come back saying we have a 3 floor house ready and we can move there . And then we moved but problems dint vanish because they were put up in ground floors and we were at 1 st floor . Mother in law used to cook for his first and third sons but not for us . We kept a maid to cook and take care of the kids because I was working that time . And she made sure that my husband alone was getting necessary food items he likes. His elder brothers wife doesn’t cook at all , doesn’t take care of her kids . It’s all my mother in law who cooks for them and takes care of them. But not a 1% she took care of my kids . All these my husband know. Sometimes he asks me to cook for his mother and I have did . Once when I dint he took the entire food and gave his mom and left me nothing. It has become very normal that he can beat me , abuse with words saying my family as prostitute family . I don have father for the past 9 years . There is nobody to support me from my side . Now we are in USA , he is trying all possible tries to bring his family here . I am now ready to get separated from him . I am a bold girl as always but I am so scared in this matter . It is now like I am all alone Suffering with 2 kids . 

Domestic Abuse

I came up with a solution to give Meredith a good lesson. And I hope that it will work. ￼￼

Love

Talked to someone for arrange marriage, and I felt how good he is, everything is so perfect (not talking about appearance) but his words, the comfort, the care, the respect,..but I feel like he deserve someone better, I am not the one for him, I am not that good at all 🥺

Marriage

I feel very lonely! I am pregnant with my first child. Only fews weeks away, however I do not feel the excitement. I feel no support from the ones who are supposed to support me the most. My husband seems always to be tired when it comes to speaking to me or doing things together. He responds to his family's needs immediately. He makes excuses of tiredness and tries to avoid interaction with my myself infront of his family. I'm at my mums house atm, he comes to visit me however keeps it discreet from his family (he comes during his working hours so that he can spend his free time responding family and spending time with his family. He calls me and messages me when he is at work. However when he is with family he doesn't message or call me. If he does its past bed time hours, he knows I get tired. His parents tell him to run errands for them, he is always available for them even if its late night. However for me he makes excuses that he is tired. He very rarely asks me how I'm feeling or dealing with pregnancy. I want him to get more involved and show his love towards me in front of his family. Today I decided to turn my phones Internet off and not communicate with him at all. From his social media my sibling showed he has taken a family member out for a tour. I think to myself and I want him to be around me besides sleeping time. I just feel sad and lonely! 

Lonely

When a girl says that she is not happy at her in-laws place, why does everyone say "IT'S COMMON TO FEEL SO, IT IS YOUR HOUSE, THEY ARE YOUR PEOPLE YOU HAVE TO ADJUST".. Why don't they say " We understand, what trouble are you facing? Speak out, we are there for you?"

Why there is no reassurance? Once married no matter what happens should a girl stick around the same in-laws place, where she is just treated as a paid servant, as an outsider and all alone? Is it because society accepts only those who can tolerate pain silently and die one day? 
I'm clueless and extremely pained!! 

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