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Anonymous

What to do when your best frnd is so busy with her live in boyfrnd and doesn’t have time for you, just don’t care about your existence, no affection, love or care. Its only and only him.
Please people i am not jealous of her, i am happy for her relationship but where does my frndship stand? Yes relationship is important but do friendship have no stand? (Also i am girl, so there is no love angle)
No i can’t communicate to her, i will be taken as over possessive person, i am already in bad state and i can’t take anymore allegations or name calling from her. What should i do?
P.s - this is affecting me because all 3 of us are in same class of college(final year). She was my partner in crime

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Anonymous

Aur fir lagta ki humesha mein hi option kyun hoti hoon? Kabhi kisi ki priority nahi…

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Anonymous

Aur yeh right people dhundhte kahin umar na guzar jaaye and mein khud wrong person na ban jaun…i fear that

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@sympathetic_hug

atleast try once to communicate?

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Anonymous

Yes i can try but there are 3 outcomes
1) she may give a very reasonable excuses and continue with it…while i have to be the ‘understanding’ person
2) she will find me jealous of her or find me over possessive and things could get escalated
3) she understands and works on it
Tbh i am way to afraid of first 2 outcomes that I don’t dare to face it. I am a mess.

@sympathetic_hug

You’re already loosing it right. So give it a try if she’s understanding maybe she acknowledge this problem else you already lost this friendship.

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Nobody @_no_body

U’ve nothing extra to loose here!! That friendship is already fading away…
Confront her once … atleast u’ll always know that you tried … If she gets it … Thats good! If she doesn’t … u hav to accept that and walk out of it no matter how bad that feels…

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Anonymous

Agreed. Thanks frnd, i think i have nothing to lose here if i communicate. At least there will be hope of something better. Thanks for the advice.

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Anonymous

Yes definitely. This was much needed advice. I will definitely implement this, work on this. Thank you for your time and advice.

@sympathetic_hug

needless🙌

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Anonymous

Even I have lost some of my best friends due to this. Never got a feeling of being someone’s priority.

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Anonymous

This feeling is shit, feels like what the hell am i, a dummy to you? I hope no person has to go through this feelings.

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Anonymous

Ik 🥺 I wish no one goes through this feeling. It just kills inside

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Anonymous

Sad to say that sometimes there is no going back to that friendship you once had. It hurts, but the best thing you can do for yourself is moving on. She already has.

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Anonymous

I have decided to communicate her what i feel in a very nice and sweet way. If things don’t get resolved i think it’s time for me to understand and move forward.

@scenic_rose

This happens with every relationship. Partner becomes a priority and friends are left behind. Guys maintain their friendship most of the time but this is not the same with the girls. I won’t blame your friend as you would have done the same thing if you had been in her place.

I understand that she’s close to you and you want her in your life. You can talk with her about this in a normal way, but she has to decide and maintain the balance between her friendship and relationship. Try to understand each other and not to force anything on anyone.

Also, make more friends if you need people in your life but don’t lose her as well.

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Anonymous

You are so damn true, each and every words. But you know if i starting mingling with other friends sometimes she taunts me ‘Go to your that friend’ ‘where is she now when you need’
She wants to be with me but always third wheeling them. Call me selfish but I can’t third wheel anymore, it gets awkward and i feel stupid doing so. I am exhausted for not feeling included. I need to make her clear that i am human being, shit hurts me and if you don’t treat me right, don’t expect me to prioritise you(her) as well.

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