What to do this has already gone out of proportion and I’m at loss. What do you do when your workmate a close friend suddenly doesn’t speak with you and distant himself from you? Im so depressed and it’s affecting my work.
Ask him , have a convo…
This is quite not a good step for now…
Wendy55 @wendy55
I understand you, I had the same exact situation. Trust me, talk to him, ask him what’s the matter, ask if he is unhappy with anything. Be honest with him about your feelings that the distance couses. Only then you will know why is he like that
Heres the thing I like him… but I know we cant be in a relationship because he’s straight. He doesn’t want to talk to me.
My other workmates sez that " steven, choose those who are going to be there for you till the end. He’s not worth it."
I guess time will heal us. But for now yeah we are bith silent. It hurts at first, now I’m just getting along with it.
Actually for disclosure. We already talked about it once before. But the problem is with me. I said to him I forgive but I dont forget, easily. I easily get triggered again when he talks and gets along with 3 other workmates of mine. Now they are a thing, theyre very close. I am jealous ,because that was us before laughing and talking. So I somehow isolated myself and everyone notices even my boss which talked to me about it.
I think he’s tired of me being that way. Whenever someone shows me kindness that I never felt before I get hooked to that person.
Its really my bad. My fault this time round.
I wanna get out of it. Heal myself. Heal us.
Wendy55 @wendy55
Oh I feel so sorry for that.
It really reminds me of myself.
There is this colleague of mine who I have to spend 8 hours a day with. I knew she had feelings for me, I felt that. Now that i think of it, I know she was not just a friend for me, I liked her too but found out too late because I never liked someone with the same gender.
Back then when I didn’t understand anything about my feelings, I told her I could not start relationship because I was not ready for that. That is when she started being cold with me, ignore me and answer me in an irritated way…
It hurted so much to see someone I loved so much was being like this with me.
Once I tried to talk with her. It kinda made situation better, we went back to communicate more, talk more. But now she is with someone esle already. And I’m still in love with her.
Remember one thing: confess to him, be honest about your feelings. Because in my case, if she gave me little more time and talk to me, I woult be with her today. I also thought I was straight, but we had a chance to be together. So don’t assume things on your know, who knows, maybe he also needs time to realise some things.
Wendy, thanks a lot. Relieved some of the weight out. Im so grateful I found this app. Literally just searched google for " site where I can dump my feelings" 😅 earlier. I should give him and us time though. I cant just walk up to him hey lets talk… Time i think right timing should be in order to patch things up.
Its a struggle to focus on work in this kind of situation.
