wait so am I in love cause there’s this girl I’ve had a crush on for the longest time and I have actually told her, and she was cool about it, but not like we’re dating or anything cause I mean I didn’t even ask cause I know what she’d say if I do but that’s not the point so anyway if I am it’s going to be a shitshow but I mean I can’t really know at this point cause it’s not like I’d know what it feels like the first time god I feel like a dick even asking this but oh well cause it’s not even about how she looks I mean don’t get me wrong she’s the most beautiful girl I’ve ever seen but also she’s funny and kind and sweet and smart and all that and if I am in love how should I move on cause I don’t want to tell my friends or anything cause I’d feel like an asshole but I can’t just let it be and also does it even matter what I feel cause in all probability she doesn’t care and so maybe I should just try and bottle it up but idk this is the most confused I’ve ever been I’m going to die alone aren’t I
How long ago did you tell her about your feelings? What was her reaction? Maybe she’s processing her feelings as well? I feel you can try and talk to her again about it!!!
It was a couple weeks ago. And believe me she isn’t processing her feelings. She’s objectively the most amazing person I know and I’m just meh. She’s been very nice about it but I just don’t want to bother her again cause I mean I can’t expect her to continuously have to help me with my problems when I can tell that she’s going through troubles of her own. Also because talking to her is the hardest thing in the world cause I’m always afraid I’ll make an absolute fool of myself, and quite often I actually do
You need to feel that just because she has a lot of problems of her own, your problems are not important enough. There have been times when I’ve fallen for someone so hard but they haven’t reciprocated back. The best thing I could do at that time was try and get over them so that it didn’t affect me or my mental peace. Because it does take a toll on you. I’d suggest you the same that if you strongly believe that she isn’t processing her feelings or anything, then you need to start the process of getting over her. Also, be it anyone in this world, don’t ever think that by being yourself you’re going to make a fool out of yourself. You are who you are!
hiee, I think this is adorable because this sounds a lot like my boyfriend’s story. so much so, that i suspected that he wrote it. my boyfriend was my closest friend for many many years, since we were in our pre-teens and well into our 20s. we weren’t the closest of friends from the very beginning, our bond grew close as we aged. which he tells me is because as you mentioned, he used to get numb around me not knowing what to say or do or be himself because he didn’t want to make a fool of himself. he loved me for the longest time, and i had my own issues earlier in my teens when i was in this toxic on-again-off-again relationship. so he never troubled me or came in the way. he just respectfully chose to continue to be by my side. eventually when we had to go to college, he went to a different city, and our conversations increased, and i’d broken up with the toxic ex too. i started to notice him. and eventually i realised i like him. so, I told him, and made fun of him for never making the move. and he said, he wanted it to come from me. i wouldn’t say it was an instant hit, because the degree to which i liked him was less than what he did. so initially there was an imbalance in the relationship like that. but it is now going to be 2 years, and I’ve never been happier. i don’t know what sort of advice I’m trying to give you, because i really don’t think anyone knows what the right way to do this is. all I’m trying to say is, it is possible for her to like you back too (probably if you really really wish that, it might come true) i don’t know , maybe i should ask my boyfriend to help you out a bit, but then again he didn’t do shit, i had to make the first move but then maybe if he’d asked me first, i may have said no, who knows?
just know you’re not going to die alone xD
there’s someone out there for you <3
Omg that cool things love come in your life sometimes ur must be persistent even if u fall try to ask her out (in private place maybe like where not lots of ur friends or her friends) hope the best for u