TW: slighty homophobic
So my mom is religious(christian) and shes the type to “support me” in anything…So I firstly told my dad that I was Bisexual and Gender-fluid. My dads the chill type of guy who will actually not really judge me(but he can be a little uncomfortable sometimes). The only fault is, my dad is loyal and doesn’t keep secrets from my mom(his wife). So he told her and told her not to tell me that he told her…so about a week later…she came to me and asked me why I wanted to hide my sexuality from her. She said, “I’ll support you no matter what…even if what you’re doing isn’t the right thing…(insert name)” That’s when it hit me that she doesn’t actually feel that way. She has tried to change my sexuality and asked me really uncomfortable questions that I didn’t want to answer on the note that I’d be judged. I hadn’t told her about my girlfriend…and she still doesn’t know…she now watches me 24/7 and puts locks on my phone and cameras around the house to watch me… Hopefully she doesn’t see this. Anyways, since I was figuring out who I was and I felt I wasn’t straight I started making it somewhat public. My mom found out and told me, “(insert name), you need to stop confessing your sins. You keep them to yourself and work on them quietly…I don’t go around saying my sins and being proud of them. You shouldn’t be proud of something that you did wrong. And you shouldn’t be announcing it to everyone either…” That’s the phrase that broke my heart…I’m not gonna type anymore for fear of crying…well it’s not like I can cry anymore…I have more trauma not including this but I’ll probably share those another day…Well, thank-you for reading! If you can, give me your opinions and advice about how I should deal with this…and sorry this might not be very important in your eyes…
Hey, this is your life, not somebody else’s. Don’t let other people control you. Live how you want to live and just be yourself. Also, your mom was probably just raised that way, so don’t hold it against her, okay? It’ll definitely be hard to deal with it, but there will be great rewards and at this current time there are a lot of people who support LGBTQ+ and are willing to help you.
So just keep holding on okay? You’re going to do great, I’m sure of it.
Sorry if this wasn’t what you were looking for, I’m not the greatest at uh comforting people
Also, if you need anyone to talk to I’m willing to listen.
Thank-you so much ! This helped me look at things from a different point of view and I really appreciate it. If I have any problems I’ll make sure to talk to you :)
No problem, I’m glad I could help you :D