TW: Coerced to send nudes online.
A guy dm-ed on Instagram complimenting my fashion style and how I looked beautiful. He then starts to playfully flirt and I playfully flirted back, because I thought he was being nice. However he then asked me to send suggestive pictures of myself. I was heavily reluctant but then gave in, because he said he didn’t want nudes (I’m assuming he said this so he could gain my trust). Few days later, he flirts again but then asked me to send nudes, and I said “no” multiple times. I even said that he needs to learn about boundaries and he responded with “boundaries are meant to be broken”. After saying no multiple times, I eventually gave in, due to his numerous requests. I send nudes, however I did censor my face for privacy.
I feel extremely disgusted at myself etc and worried because I don’t know if he’ll send my nudes or not and if he saved my suggestive pictures or not too. And I don’t even know him that well and he declared that me and him are a couple (like boyfriend and girlfriend) and I agreed to that- it was late at night and my mind wasn’t thinking straight.
He’s currently ghosting me and I don’t know if we are official or not, or if he just manipulated me online. I’m very gullible and naive online and I’ve only just turned 18 very recently (2 weeks ago).
Am I in the wrong then? I feel like a disgusting pervert.
Calm down first!! It is natural to feel this way at this moment. And that guy was very much intended to make this happen from the beginning. See him ghosting you after he got what he wanted. But what you need to know is… He is not a part of your life. The pictures you have sent him, was just bcz of the scam and he played with your emotions and pre-matured self.
He doesn’t have or care about neither you nor your life. Those pictures were what he was after. Mostly in instagram this is very common.
Don’t worry it was not at all a pervert behavior rather he was a pervert. He is supposed to feel guilty of what he did to a rather minor. At this age, you’ll feel a lot of situations where you won’t feel like you’re controlling your emotions. But you’ll have to control. You’ll need to be attentive to your body and mind. The body is yours nobody can ever demand or want out of your concern. Build the courage. Learn to say no. When you get the gut feelings of the situation going wrong, take yourself out immediately. It’s the prime age. Don’t waste it on the fleeting emotions
Do you know that guy? Or is he just someone random on the internet?
Please be careful in things like this. It’s good that you blurred your face but just because he flirted with you and requested you multiple times you should not have given in. You should have just blocked him if he was repeatedly asking.
If he’s ghosting you then let it be. Don’t text him it’s better you stay away from him.
When did this happen? Before your birthday or after?
He was a random guy on the internet too. He’s 19 I believe. Still, I thought he was being nice but clearly I was being idiotic.
Okay! Mistakes happen. Be careful going forward please.
I hope he does not start harassing you. If he does please get help from someone and don’t get scared.
Okay?
The act of him wanting me to send nudes was after I turned 18, however I think he followed me when I was 17.
He asked for my nudes after I turned 18 however he followed my instagram account when I was 17. He did say he’s 19 years old but I do find it iffy.
Who do I contact if I do get harassed??
If your parents are not that strict or if you have an elder sibling you can talk to them about it. Or you can also make a Complaint online in the cyber cell. I don’t know the exact process but you can do that.
Okay I’ll keep that in mind.
Take Care!
And study well for your exams.
You’ll do good! 👍🏽
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Once again please please be safe and try not to get into these things. You are at an age where you also want to do things. But think before you act. Do not trust people that easily.
Hopefully I pray that nothing will go against you, and I will say that you are in growing phase but yes don’t fall for words. If you want to share anything related to this, you can say, am here
I’m very paranoid let’s just put it that way. I feel like I just exploited myself for him. It’s so not helpful because I have exams coming up too and it’s just a mess rn…
Focus on your exams, because exam is most important now. Don’t worry, nothing will go against you
You wanna talk? I mean are you alright?
Honestly I’ve been so upset for the past 2 days, I even cry about this.
But you have to focus on exams, do you want a listener
I have been revising yesterday. Do you have any revision tips??
Yes, do one thing. Highlight the points which you are forgetting, it will decrease the revision time
