Tired and lonely
I met a girl online who was relative of my colleague… we started talking on instagram and after 6 months we met face to face. We started as friends but eventually we had feelings for each other. Her parents knew about me and my parents also knew at that time. We were meeting after every 15-20 days. She told her parents that I am asking for marriage with her. Her parents taken initiative and asked me to send them my kundli so that we can even move further. And fortunately our kundli also matched.
And here comes the twist… I have diabetes for the past 8 years and I already told about this to girl even before we started dating and she didn’t had any problem. After kundli matching she told about this to her parents. And her parents totally declined for our relationship then. She was positive for 2 days that we will do something. But after that she started avoiding me and stopped receiving my calls. Before daily 2-3 times we were on call video call but after this even I called for 3-4 times then she receives call and not talking properly.
First when we started dating we agreed on that we will not oppose our parents rather we will make them ready for our marriage. She had one relationship before but it ended on bad terms. At that time she decided and told her parents that from here onwards her mother would take decisions and will not go against her. She fell for the wrong guy which made her doubt in her own decisions.
Now that her parents declined our relationship she also making wrong behaviour with me. I was ready to give her commitment but only because of health condition they won’t accept. She told me stay as friends but I don’t think that we can go on that path back. That’s when I stopped calling and messaging her. Unfriend her from every social media. Whenever I am alone I starts recalling all those memories. I was trying till the end but she gave up easily. At least she had to try at some point instead she chose to with her parents decision. Even if she said at least that my parents were not ready and we should stop it wouldn’t hurt instead avoiding me.
And now she looks fine to me and i am the one who is depressed.
Falling in love is all fine but if you think of living a life with someone you have to check if that person is going to stay strong as you. Love is just not enough brother, to keep or own that love one needs courage!! If the other person doesn’t have it, you’re gonna endup as devadas. In the world full of devadas and parus find laila and majnus🌚 iykyk.
Yes brother. I will keep that in mind. Relationship is 2 ways. If any one of them stops giving efforts, it’s over.
Raza Khan @thegentleguide
Brutal answer…stop trying.
You did best it’s her turn to prove her worth.
Yes
Shabana S. @shabana_saiyye...
How I see it is way different, i feel we all are on a journey and this life is bus🚌, we meet some people we like them talk to them, but when their stop comes they get down and we don’t stop them, instead we love the Time we spent with this person, and recall it in good sense
Think of it, if we make it bitter once they have gotten off the bus 🚌, who is going to feel hurt and suffer. The one who is still traveling, who gets off is at ease…
Love and cherish each moment, forgive the hurt and make mistakes and enjoy life, message if you need help…
Its a fact that most of the Indians will suffer from diabetes at some or the other point in life. Its such a common issue. Let me tell you one important thing. Whenever we are looking for love/ arrange marriage the couple should make sure that if any of you will in future suffer from some or the other health condition he/she should accept the other person at any circumstances. If she loves you she won’t mind about the diabetes issue. Her parents might instigate her against you regarding your health. But if she can stand up for you and ignore her parents then it’s the best thing. Don’t loose hope man. Parents are critical of everything I tell you, they judge a person on their money, caste, looks etc so don’t mind. At the end your need acceptance from you gf as she has to live with you.
Also I want to let you know our partner is already destined. After my recent break up I realised this. By hook or crook we will get marry to them only so don’t be sad. She wasn’t the one for you.
