There’s a guy in my office who is much older than me and married too with kids and was having a interest in me and I think somehow now also…he made me habitual of talking to him regularly in starting and even confessed his feelings many a times that I m his crush or whatever and even after sometime I also started liking him but just as a friend as whenever we would talk I felt very comfortable and relaxed and doesn’t want to end that conversation but as and when our offices got changed and our regular meeting got disturbed he somehow got changed…I think that because of many more girls got added in his office and he was not getting the so called perfect rply to his confession which he really wanted and his ego got hurt. But now as got habitual of talking to him I really miss him and he really don’t care like now he only talk when he wants to and left my messages seen without even replying that left me very irritated and angry. I don’t know how to get rid off this feeling as I don’t want to loose him also and not liking this behavior also . I think now he got to Know this behavior of mine he is just using this according to his comfort level…just need a solution for this😢😢can’t even concentrate on my career also…
Confront him once, still if he tries to ignore you then it is good.
See… he is a married guy. And plus he confessed to you, which is a big NO NO. You don’t wanna be involved with someone who is committed. If you do, it will eventually make your life and his wife’s life problematic, he might have a good time, but you both will suffer.
Being friends is fine, but when you know that you might start having feeling for him, its a sign for you to back off! And for the feeling that you can’t get rid of the feeling, you should put your ego and self respect up. No one can treat you like that. No one can just come and talk whenever they feel like. So just thik of him as ‘matlabi’ who comes only when he has work.
What you r saying is perfectly correct and even tried everything to just get rid off but nothing worked and just to ignore and forget him I tried talking to strangers too but in that also I failed and now not getting any solution for this problem…
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Put a limitation on yourself, he is married, would it be fair to his wife?
Place yourself in her position & what if your husband cheats on you, spends nights with other females? Would it be fair?
Here you will also be a part of him cheating on his wife as you clearly know about his marital status.
Control your excitement, take sensible steps here. Things should not extend beyond a casual chat.
But we r not in relationship we r just friends and neither we r spending nights together. It’s just that I feel good and comfortable sharing things with him and never wanna loose him only as a friend…
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You have clearly said that he has a crush on you, don’t you think that this crush may turn into something else (only if you guys stayed connected).
You even said that now he his not giving time to you as he used to, probably because now he got new female friends, what does this indicate?
Somewhere you are feeling jealous, because he is not giving you time, he is talking to other girls…
Can I rephrase your concern - You need someone to talk with, someone who can comfort you? Is this more precise?
