The mother wound that I carry goes on too deep. She lives through me but I am not living how she wants me to ,how she would want to. The possessiveness in the name of care suffocates me.
I can only say, I know what you mean. Its frustrating, its codependent and its toxic. I suggest reading a book by the name of “Healing daughters of Narcissistic Mothers”. I think its available on amazon. Also, try to assert boundaries wherever you can. I hope this helps a little.
It’s been a year and it has gotten better. I have learnt to keep myself first. Thankyou for this and also the reading suggestion!