The goal to is to let go of your fixation on the other person - their work, their problems, how they should behave or the decisions they should be making - and turn your focus back onto yourself. How are you showing up? Where are you not living your own values, beliefs, or the habits & rituals you want to commit to? What are you compromising on that you know you shouldnt? And, maybe most importantly, where are you contributing to the breakdown and disconnection within the relationship.