The girl I was seeing for six months made me feel so safe and loved, she told me I was amazing, the most special person she’s ever met, told me she doesn’t ever want to lose me - she said she’s not ready for a relationship - and has been very distant over text message since, so I try to give space etc and be there as her friend. The confusing part is she invites me to stay at her house and she becomes flirty like we used to be, we have been intimate once since she said she’s not ready for a relationship and she said maybe we should try to not let it happen again, but I stay at her house and I wake up and she’s cuddling me, or we go to bed and she began feeling my chest and put her hand in my pants - I stopped her from going any further but it’s just confusing me… what does this girl want???
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Maybe she doesn’t want to date, but just be friends with benefits.
I asked her if that’s what she wants and she said she just wants to be friends because she doesn’t want to lose me, and because feelings were beginning to get deeper… I don’t know what she means but she is always the one initiating any physical contact, I’ve stuck to the friendship boundaries as best as I can
Don’t be with anyone that’s not clear on what they want. This person just wants to play with your emotions. Walk away and save yourself any stress.
It’s hard but you’ve got This
I just can’t imagine my days without her, I really love her, and it seemed like she really loved me or at least cared a lot for me, shesin a lot of debt and is struggling with her sexuality as her family do not know - but I don’t want anything from her except her time
I totally understand. I loved someone for years because I couldn’t imagine leaving them but they didn’t love me the way I needed to be loved. I finally left and I promise you after the weeks of crying i found my happiness and now I regret all the time I wasted waiting to be loved. Detachment is painful but the minute you do it and move on you will feel so much peace
What you’re saying makes so much sense. I guess I’m trying to hold on to what we were - because it was as if we were made for eachother (I know that’s cheesy) and maybe I’m making excuses for her, but she only changed her behaviour when her debt became too much and she had to work for weeks in a row with no time off… maybe I’m just fooling myself but I think if I don’t get some answers I will have to just leave and not look back
Lol it’s not cheesy at all. Life would always get hard trust me. You need a partner that can communicate no matter how hard life gets. Even simple words as “I know I am so busy, but I still care about you” Is enough to make you understand. ❤️
Wow I have never even thought about it like that…. You’re totally right, thank you so much for your advice on this!
It’s gonna hurt but Man, that’s a toxic behaviour.
Create a line and tell her YOU wants to be just her frnd.
And don’t let her touch you.
See, where that goes.