The girl I am seeing says she isn’t ready for a relationship and has called things off… I’m not ready for a relationship either, I was just happy seeing her and spending time with her. I know she’s stressed at the minute with work and finances etc some family problems and she has trouble opening up and is scared of being hurt. And I know for sure she has deep feelings for me - she says she cares for me, has feelings for me and that I’m the most amazing person she’s ever met. She said she’s not ready for a serious relationship and that she wants to end things before feelings get even deeper which makes me think she’s just scared?
She says her biggest fear is losing me completely and that she still wants to see me and talk and just be friends?
Please someone tell me what to make of this? Shall I give her space and hope she will reconsider? I miss her so much
Give her space she would probably reconsider you
Giving her space is fine but after you actually open up to her if you haven’t ( not the unsaid words and silent responses)… tell her you like her and would like to give it a try but first think if you ever would want this friendship to end? If things go south in your relationship would you be better off without her in your life or would you want her to still be friends… Ask her about the same and if you come to a mutually agreeable solution go with that.
Just giving her space or ghosting her wouldn’t be right.
I’m not ghosting her at all, I’m still there and I text to check in and stuff, it’s taken all my willpower to not ask to see her this week 😩 I’m just trying to give her the space she needs to think things through, I will always be here for her in whatever capacity she wants me to be - her feelings mean so much more to me than my own and I can handle just being her friend if that’s what she really wants - I just really want her to reconsider 😩
She might…now that you understand that it’s she who has to decide…let her tell you her decision…until then u can only wait… whatever is her decision respect that… understand that you won’t loose anything…if she says yes then one more relationship between you two will add up… else you still would have your friend always.