Sometimes I miss out on ways to help people, and later when I see someone offering help to that person (something that I could’ve done), I feel very very guilty. This happens more so when someone politely declines me, but accepts help from someone else (should I have forced them more?).
This guilt eats me up for days, and if it somehow happens twice with the same person or with someone I meet rarely- AHH, I can’t explain how terrible I feel.
How do I forgive myself for what’s already passed, and how do I make sure that I identify every opportunity to help someone?
Because I seriously can’t deal with this much guilt.
I think the healty way to think about this is to be aware that everyone makes decisions for themselves. You offered to help having all the right intentions and they declined. Maybe you just weren’t the right person to help with that matter. It’s not your fault. Yes, there are times where maybe you have to insist a bit, depending on the situation, but if they just decline your offer to help, they just don’t find you fit for their problem. And that is okay. Everybody feels a certain way. You should feel good that at least you tried to help, then move on.
