So the thing is my parents aren't allowing to go out on new year and my bf is going out with my frnds like wtf bcoz of him my aren't letting me go out he is going to have fun with my frnds.. I'm not jealous or anything but yrrr he'll enjoy without me with my frnds wtf is that... Also he is getting his two frnds to join they are male but why with my frnds man ( girls, boys, couples) my frnds include but why the fuck he has to go without me😩😩😩

He is the best guy ever but idk why I'm feeling like this😩😩

Ik I'm getting jealous of him being roaming with my frnds

I'm parents are not taking me out for new year nor they are allowing me to go with my frnds😩 and he is alot introvert earlier I use to tell him to get with them but now he is going with them without me.. And his frnds doesn't even know anyone of my frnd nor I know his frnds 😩😩😩

It is hard to understand what men want or think. Sometimes they are good, sometimes they become weird people. Hopefully, u can solve this thing. 

Boyfriend

Hey folks. I've been off for a while, only to realize how much I needed your support. I'm going through withdrawal of a relationship and it's really getting to me...Any remedies to fix missing an ex?

Loss

Hy guys

Here is my story.
I have been talking to this guy for months now since I've met him, I only saw him once: that's when we exchanged numbers.
I happened to fall in like during those months of us talking. Recently I visited his town and met him for the 2nd time ever. We went partying together and other friends obviously. After the party we were both under the influence and went to his place. So we slept together and did the deed, remember we are only meeting for the 2nd time ..we've been talking on the phone only. 
So the next morning I left his place and went to my friend's, I then realized that I actually love the guy. After that weekend I came back home. He was stuck in my mind, but then there was no longer communication. He wasn't talking to me the way he used to, he went mute. So the next weekend I decided to visit my friend just so I can see him again (they stayed in the same complex). When I got to my friend's place fortunately I saw him, so he was aware that I'm around. He sent a text telling me that he's hoping to see me later on. I replied "sure". So the same night we met and went to his place slept together and did the deed again, the next morning I left to my friend's place. Still there was no communication after. I told him I have fallen for him and I love him, he says that back to me but I can't seem to believe him because he's all mute when I'm away. I went home. After all of this I feel unwanted and used because we used to talk nicely so and after the visits the guy is quiet when I ask why..he would tell me that ...nothing has changed. 
So guys please tell me what to do in this situation cause I love him ...I feel like he doesn't and he just wanted to sleep with me and leave.
I'm actually hurt. Can I get your opinions
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I have been dating from Last past 4 years and now suddenly he feels that his friends are more important and I’m not understanding we got into a big fight and I asked to choose between them or me …he went with them . I have exams in less than a month he hasn’t deleted photos from any social media but he didn’t called or texted once in this fifteen days I m so stressed and depressed I just don’t know what to do and how to deal with it

I actually had a crush on my boy best friend...and I think he know that as well but we never spoke abt it...so nowadays he doesn't talk to me like used to....so I asked him do u think I like you...and he said like I haven't thought of it coz we never spoke of such topics...Nd he added like all of my frnds are my sisters like I am not kidding abt tht .... It's srs...sooo...and suddenly he stopped...Nd he was like I don't know I randomly said something leave tht...I was like obv he doesn't like me....after sometime I texted him...heyyy...and he was like yeahhh saayy...so I siad nthg....Nd later he said u sure? See if u gotta say smthg u shld later u shldnt be like oh I cld have said... ... So I said  nthg leave it and stuff coz I wanted to escape from tht...so now he started posting stories on ig saying don't expect anything one side be careful and he added himself a comment like careful then make it two side...idk ..did he mean me or does he have another crush...

Ok I'm here just to put my heart out cause I'm keeping few things within myself for a long time and I don't have anyone to share with so yes I wanna write it down here.
I love someone I dated him for like 3 months it was a ldr and he's in Armed forces so yes sometimes it was hard to get in contact with him still we managed anyhow.
One night it was the day before his birthday I was super excited, I send him gifts before that and he liked each of them..... whatever that night he told me he's in love with someone I couldn't believe that and it took me 3 months to accept that fact cause before that we had some family issues so I thought may be he wanna breakup for that reason.
Whatever our relation didn't worked out even after everything he was always humble to me talked to me whenever I called him, make me understand numerous time.
Then I felt like these things are happening cause we haven't met for quiet a long time may be things will settle if we meet and talk so I decided to travel to his place and meet him it was 1000kms away from my place but I gathered myself and I wanted to give it a last try.
Things remained same so I decided to pack up myself and live my own life I didn't wanted to feel like that anymore and I did so.
I haven't talked to him two weeks after that suddenly one evening I saw some news related to cyclone and they were about to go for the rescue operation I couldn't hold myself at that moment.... I called him it didn't connected I left a text for him and kept waiting for the reply after 5-6 hrs he texted me back at midnight....

"Don't worry, I'm safe 
You take care of yourself
 I'll be fine" 

I got back my breath and went to sleep the next day he called me after getting back from the operation and we talked for 3hrs even when he was tired.
That was the day I felt we need each other in life and we decided to be best friends.
We are still now it's going to be an year but somewhere deep seated I still feel for him and I couldn't resist myself...he broke up with his girlfriend I heard that later...
Things are good now whenever any of us feels low or need some help we calls each other.

But I think I can't love anyone else I'm so confused about everything.

It's always him.
He's my comfort zone.

3am Thoughts

I don’t know how I really feel.I broke up from my bf 2 months ago and have waited for him to come back since the last day.I really love him and when I saw him after some times he couldn’t get his eyes of of me.I thought he was gonna talk to me again but that never happened.I don’t know why I am writing all these things here but I guess I’m desperate now 

Breakup

I am really confused. I am not an online person so, I felt it creepy when this anonymous friend of mine asked to see me. Am I wrong to feel so?

Tho, I know him since a year, he told me his others friends also have seen him. Maybe through wa? Idk. He said on call that he want to know how I look. It's so uncomfortable to hear.  I felt so bad, no one dared to say this to me. 

And I said few things too in anger like he is just an online person which hurt him too. I said no too, but he just wanted to know why can't I? I thought he is my friend, as gave me advise and help me sometimes too, when I wasn't feeling ok.  -_- 
Why would anyone do this? 


Friends

Dear Mother,

I know little tamil. Want to share my life incident which has affected both my mind and body. I was married to a stranger in an early age. It was an arranged marriage and he belonged to my caste. I agreed for marriage thinking that he will take care of me with love and affection. Till marriage, he was so sweet to me. But I had no clues of first night at the time of completion of college. Pushed by astrologer, I married him. He tried to impress me and move closer with me. Slowly he wanted to put pressure on me by undressing me and giving a blow of kisses which were so awkward to me at that moment. I did not ever know him or understand him and so wanted to create a space between both of us to understand each other and resisted sex with him. But he voluntarily forced me to sleep with him and he abused me physically for satisfying him. As he is a villager, he told everyone that I am not interested in sex. This created a disgusting feeling for me towards him. So many times, he was like a coward wanting only for sex. There is no emotional connect between me and him. But he still needs only sex. The thought that he has been abusing me is killing me. Though he is my husband, he is not kind towards me and he just wants me to stay in his house like a slave. He always shouts at me, and instructs me to sit in some corner as I am a girl. He is a brahmin boy working in temple. So he even puts restrictions to me on food and clothes. The bathroom in that house is not well maintained and hyegienic. I wanted to study more as I am a topper but they are telling that I should not study. And so wanted to look for some paying guests. Since marriage, I am earning and getting food from my own money only. They did not even visit me during my tough times or they do not even have time to listen to my interests or how they can make me happy. I am married but I don’t have a baby. This is their only problem. My husband though he says he is a brahmin, he speaks ugly words to me and threatens me that he will cut me to halves with knife and will rape me if I don’t obey him. I am not getting love towards him. And I am seeing him as a rapist and rogue. My life is totally gone. I want to lead a peaceful life though I don’t have a baby. They are not letting me live. His father is very rich in that village and he buys everything with his money and even justice. I am badly disturbed by the thought that he abused me and used my body for his desires. Though I sleep alone, he will come to me for societal pressure for abusing and misbehaving with me. They got all my belongings with them and forcing me to come and live in that house. I don’t like the way I am treated and so I want to rent a house for myself and do my studies. But my husband asks divorce from me and puts pressure on me to give a baby to him or to come and stay with him. Before God, I am saying that we are not connected by hearts and we don’t have a good relationship. Since marriage, I have been crying so badly. But those people are disturbing my life by filing a case on me to demand money. They are not letting me live. I am saying that I am very much disturbed and will come and stay with them after doing my studies and finishing my personal works. Since 5 years, they always demanded money and money only. They did not care if I am happy or not. I strived alone for food, I was thrown out when my husband told he wants to go to office and that he wants me to vacate his house at once. I did not have money at that time and struggled a lot for food, clothing and shelter. I wanted to look for some genuine ways to live my life though I am badly cheated. I really want to live my life, but they are spoiling my happiness to work out love, by putting command over me. In that house, bathroom is not well built and even if I feel sick, there is no one to take care of me. And my husband also does not care about my health. He is asking me to avoid all my interests, and telling me his mom has grown old and I should come to their house to do all household chores. I have a lot of health issues and they still use a sand stove which creates wheezhing and respiratory disorders. The atmosphere of that house is so clumsy and they even tie cows and goats inside the house. Cat is disturbing by jumping over me during periods time, I cannot sleep peacefully. Insisted them to look for a house for me. But they resist and say that I should only stay in that house and should bear a baby. They are not having rights to force me like this. Love is a bonding between two hearts. But I was abused every night, used and thrown away. Everyone is scolding me. I don’t like to live in this world. I am getting a thought to die. Those people will not let me live. They are tearing my flesh and forcing me for everything. I just expressed my wish that I want to stay in the world that I wish to live. But his dad is torturing me and telling me to follow what his son says. I am feeling afraid and insecure. Kindly help me Mother. A girl cannot allow a man to stay close to her unless and until she feels him as the right man and she is happy and secure with him. Without having that feel, how can I go near him? I am not willing for another marriage also. Hardened my mind by assuming me as I am widowed as my husband can never give any form of happiness to me. He pulled my neck down and tried to kill me when he was in anger. He poured phenol on his mother’s mouth. But in that house, they are supporting only their son. Telling that he is not a drunkard and I should learn to live with him. I adjusted upto what I can. But they have been threatening me by their influence for money. If possible, kindly arrange some counselling as I go sexually exploited and victimized by marital rape. I cannot bear beyond some extent Mam. When my father in law calls me to that house again, I feel that I have to die if they should not disturb me. And my brother in law is also teasing me that I stay in that house for his dad is putting food. And I don’t know how to impress a husband to get the work done to give a baby for their family. He is younger in age but teases me so badly for I am worth of nothing and he pushes me out of that house. Always teasing me and kills me with words. They are killing me alive, and my husband burnt me alive by throwing me, now calling me for putting me to a hell that would destroy my mental peace, please don’t give this case to local police as they will easily escape by the influence. He was also in touch with other married girls and forced them to come and live with him. Kindly help by reply. If we are not at all connected by hearts, how I can give myself to him just for the sake of marriage and he having the license to touch me. He is not having rights to take control over me or treat me low as he is very rich. I am also a human being and his life partner to be treated with equality. Mother, I am crying every day for getting a bad husband and I was wrongly pulled in. Everyday people in that village are bringing any new person to me and telling them to beat me and pull me there to that house. They are rogues. They are not ready to spend a rupee for me, not cared for me when I was all alone when I struggled for food, and studied with my own money by part time job. Put a lot of efforts to get a honest living for me. They want to spoil my life, by staying inside 4 walls of that house without any happiness and to get used by them. Please help me.



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