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Tanisha Jain @jaintanisha4

So recently i got back with my ex, we were in a 4 year on and off relationship, he came back accepted all his mistakes, apologised, cried to me, did everything to make his mine which was looking genuine, he himself gave me time to think as we were considering marriage since the very start, our parents also knew about us, he said me if you are sure then only we will take it ahead, it seemed that we are trying to understand each other, yes we were still fighting about old issues which led to the breakups in the past, one of which was his priority was his friends and never me, but we were focusing on making this relationship work, i forgive him for everything that he’s done to me in the past, and thought to consider getting married to him, so 2 days back the entire day he didn’t speak to me, i was like you cannot take out 2 minutes to talk, this started a cold war between us, and the same day he went to a friends party in the evening, he came back and we talked a little normally and he slept, later in the morning his mum asked him why wasn’t she with you at the party, he had no answer and he came to me and said you know why were you not invited to the party because you cut my friends off whenever we breakup, to which i said everytime we break up i think of moving on from you and if i keep talking to your friends, hangout w them where you’re also present, how will i be able to move on? And his friends only meet to smoke and then talk, and I don’t smoke, neither i want to do passive smoking, he then in the end say such behaviour of yours will only lead to end, i said then why did you come back, to which he said i couldn’t see anything other than love but after the way you have talked today , this is not what i want, sorry for coming back and trying and i am left thinking what did i say wrong

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Anonymous

What are you thinking do you wanna continue with him or not

Tanisha Jain @jaintanisha4

No, i mean i am just confused that you did so much to get me back and now suddenly over one stupid thing you don’t think i am worth fighting for?

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Divya @divya_niki

If u need support in order to move out of this situation/ relationship, I can try to help you. I have been through this in past. Feels like I can support through ideas I adopted. Let me know if you want to discuss.

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Anonymous

Can we connect tanisha?

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Anonymous

No 🙄

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Anonymous

Giving second chance is always a bad choice, he is just with you because maybe he have noone

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Anonymous

And you should just keep yourself far away from his reach, don’t invest efforts or emotions here

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Anonymous

Think on your own, that how can someone be so busy in a whole day that he even don’t have the time to text you

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Anonymous

He did texted, but like just to update me, chalo is also fine, he might be busy, but what was my fault it his friend didn’t invite me for his birthday?

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Anonymous

You are not getting my point

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Anonymous

The point is something else, read my comment again…

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Anonymous

So you are going to marry someone soon … am i right?

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Anonymous

Yes, i mean my parents are looking for me

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Anonymous

Trust your parents, but don’t trust this guy

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Anonymous

If you feel low or anxious at any moment, you can discuss about this with me in details…

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Anonymous

Don’t waste your emotions and energy by giving chance to a man who already failed in past time

@sree1210

It might be worth considering whether this relationship is truly making you happy and bringing you the fulfillment you deserve. Sometimes, taking a step back and evaluating whether the relationship is healthy and sustainable can be a difficult but necessary thing to do.

It might be helpful to have an open and honest conversation with your partner about your feelings and concerns. Discuss where you both see the relationship going and whether you’re on the same page about your future together. While it’s never easy to initiate such conversations, it’s important to prioritize your emotional well-being and make decisions that are in your best interest.

Remember that relationships should ideally be sources of support, growth, and happiness. If you find that the relationship is causing you more stress and confusion than joy, it might be worth considering whether it’s time to let go and move forward in a healthier direction. If you want to discuss it further you can DM me.

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Anonymous

I can advice only, that please don’t go emotional. Once a breakup, it shouldn’t be continued again. The breakup can happen again and again. I have already been through that. I won’t suggest to continue.

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Anonymous

So this was the fourth time we patched up, everytime he comes back he says, though we were not talking to each other but we both are miserable without each other

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Anonymous

Because as soon as i start feeling better, he’s back again

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Anonymous

Then, it’s a confirm from my side. If you really want to be happy, you have to let it go and move on by taking a hard decision.

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Anonymous

Just talk with any one of your female friend whom you can trust, she will tell you the same thing which I told you.

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Anonymous

She’s seen the patterns, and she had said me this before also that don’t go back to him, but idk my heart just doesn’t accepts the fact that he’s not the person which i think he is

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Anonymous

Dear friend, You have to trust your friend and my suggestion to get a better future. Yes, moving on to another person is a hard thing, but once you move on, you will definitely say later that it was one of the best decisions of your life

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Anonymous

This breakup-patchup will be your routine things if you marry this person. After marriage, you won’t be having any other choice except accepting the way he is. In today’s world, you have to be strong and confident about what type of person you want and in which way you want the qualities.
Be clear, and move forward.

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Anonymous

Whatd your parents take on this?

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Anonymous

They don’t like him anymore

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Anonymous

What’s your opinion?

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Anonymous

When even you know its not gonna work. I don’t know why you are not ready to accept.

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Anonymous

Till now, i was fighting w my mum, but after this incident, i am like i can never make it work with him, its just that my dream of getting married to him i guess, the potential that he showed me, which was only words and no actions, he was trying so hard to give me bare minimum, it was not coming naturall to him, then how can it be love? But then those tears, he cried so much for me? What was all that? And suddenly he’s concerned that i cannot hangout with his friends and that is why he should not marry me and backed off? I understood that he’s wrong for me , but I didn’t understand the fact that he came back 4 times just to leave like this again? I mean what even is this?

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Anonymous

Look he’s not even 1per worth. If you gonna get back to him I’ll remember you as dumbest person i ever met

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He doesn’t deserve you

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I want to get this in my head clearlyyyyy

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Anonymous

This is the 3rd place you’re commenting?
You don’t know if ur anonymous also.
There will be different dp to each person?

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Anonymous

Do you like him after all those things

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Anonymous

I love him for the potential that his shown , but I don’t like him, i think its all in my head

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Anonymous

Ye hota hai mitr ki kuch ache pal ya samay hum bhul nahi paate lekin jaisa usne humare sath kiya hum wo bhi to nahi bhul skte na.

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