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Anonymous

So my gf has a past and clearly I don’t have any past. But my gf is kind hearted and I can feel this. We have been in a relationship for 9 months. We met only once for a simple date. We lived in different states. And she told me everything at the start about her past. But after 9 months I’m having issues with her past, somehow I feel like she can cheat me because she has a history of her past. I don’t know whether I should continue or leave this relationship. But our feelings for each other is pure and both are kind hearted.

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Anonymous

Bhai you are overthinking this. If she loves you, if you love her and you knew everything about her before the beginning of the relationship then clearly it’s not a problem. In your mind you are trying to compete with her exes, you are trying to measure yourself and your worth against her exes and feeling insecure. She isn’t cheating on you. She wasn’t even with you when she was dating someone, so clearly this isn’t her issue. Quit watching videos that tell you that women with a past are red flags and change your environment if your envt echoes this message. If you are still uncomfortable, I would say leave her. She isn’t for you. Let her find someone who would accept her with her past and would be secure about it, and you can find a girl with no past with whom you will be comfortable.

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Sure

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Anonymous

Pls break up with her she deserves better. Sorry to say but i also have been with a guy in past long distance and i told him everything thats the biggest mistake ever even after being loyal im the one who suffered as he kept doubting and questioning me to the point where i was like pls fuck off from my life. This kind of relationship never works. If u r insecure work on yourself. Be capable of trusting someone before entering in a relationship.

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Gurl taking gurl side

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Anonymous

If its a guy i would say the same thing my opinion wont change by the gender

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Anonymous

No one is taking sides here on the basis of gender. What you shared is just weird. The girl in question told you everything and you were fine with it in the beginning. Now suddenly out of nowhere you are having issues. Who’s at fault here? Nobody forced you to be with her- both of you consensually agreed to be in a relationship. You had all the info you needed to make a decision. & now it’s an issue. This is legit like a girl agrees to be in a relationship with a guy who smokes and then has issues with it. You are no different. No one is taking sides here. They are just holding you accountable because you came and shared your stuff here.

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Anonymous

I completely agree with u… i have faced this before…they will end up bringing someone’s past in fights which is not eight acc to me… either dont create issue or end it completely

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@slightlyparadox

Honestly speaking security in relationship grow with time. It’s not like how people showcase it in the movies. In reality we are just humans and it’s natural to feel insecure in the starting phase of a relationship. But give some time to your relationship. But i will suggest you to kp this feelings of urs to yourself. I believe with time this doubts will fade away. I know it’s easy to overthink and hard to stay patient. But trust me, these kind of connections are very rare to find, if you find it, protect it at all costs and keep it. I wish you guys endup together in life and be happy, all the best. If you want to discuss about anything in future, txt here. Tc

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Anonymous

If you finding it draining just leave her bro🤙

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Anonymous

How much distance you guys have?

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