So my boyfriend… every now & then, behaves differently, like I’m not a priority or I’m not that important… He behaves sometimes… like he forgets that I even exist… idk how he does that because for me, he’s very important! I make sure he’s updated all the time, that he shouldn’t be worrying abt anything, he shouldn’t ever feel that I’m ignoring him… so I’m always a text away. But he…, he just randomly forgets to call me/ drop me a text and until a few days back… I was just bearing all this crap… But now it seems that the water has boiled to the brim and I can’t keep it stable… I’m infuriated, and in rage, and I feel like just taking a break from him to avoid any such events in future. Especially because I’ve communicated this very clearly with him, not once, not twice, but a few more times, and he still doesn’t get it!!! He always has a “Sorry” ready on his tongue, and it’s done. Quick apology, no effort, back to square one!! So I think it’d be healthier for my mental peace that I give it a break. It’s sucking my energy, time and peace, and that’s too much !!!
I’ve been trying to keep calm, to forget, to ignore, to forgive, but now it feels like … I’m done n exhausted with such behaviour.
I’m confused! Please suggest.
(Also, I don’t want to lose my ny self respect or compromise in a way that hurts me more emotionally)
Açha Bacha @soft_forest_2
Ap unhe chor do kariban ap khush to rahoge apne life mai
Itna asaan hota toh kabka kardia hota…
Yahi asmanjas mei hu… but I’ll consider your advice. I agree … Khush bhi nhi rahi toh kam se kam dimag toh shanti mei rahega
Hota kya hai there are lot of certainties like
Maybe first of all he’s cheating
Maybe he is screwed up in his life so he is taking time to get things fix and thn let you know
Maybe he can’t able to enjoy his mee time
Maybe he’s like that
And agar baat kuch smjh aaye toh you can contact me
I m best in giving relationship advice ✨ take care of yourself remember you will be the one which have to give answer to yourself what you doing and what you’ve done
Idk what’s going on exactly!
But regardless of all, I hate it when he apologizes and repeats the same thing over and over again!
I don’t know how to move forward from here! It’s suffocating!
See mistakes repeat hona do possibilities hoti hai
Ek toh unintentionally aur ek unintentionally or agar yeh intentionally toh agar if you’re sure ki intentionally toh you should move on and it hurts but not that much jitna aap relationship main hokar suffer kr rahe ho it’s like better than nothing and Haan psychology help lo but tbh dependency aajati hai like jra sa b kuch hua you go to meet psychologist asa hai so cause i m telling you from my experience it took 3 years to help myself alone and trust me ek baar aap ese ho jate ho na fhir koi b aapki mental health kabhi khrhb nahi kr sakta
Bhavna P. @bhavna_pande
It’s crucial to prioritize our mental well-being and self-worth in relationships. If a repetitive behavior persists without improvement, it becomes a matter of concern. Setting clear boundaries is essential; otherwise, people might take us for granted. Your realization of these dynamics empowers you to establish firm boundaries for a healthier relationship. Alternatively, if you believe this won’t work, it’s time to explore life on your terms. Prioritize your desires over others’ expectations. As your friendly counseling psychologist, I’m here for support and guidance. If you need assistance, feel free to reach out.
Counseling Psychologist Bhavna Pande