So it’s yesterday’s thing. Me and my boyfriend were returning home and we both were driving 2 wheeler. And I’ve electric scooter in which I’ve learnt driving so it’s little odd for me to drive any other petrol scooter. So while driving i wasn’t able to match the speed and he wanted me to drive parallel with him which i wasn’t able to become I’m still not that used to driving in main road. So he got irritated and said that “ who’s that idiot who said you you can drive, you clearly can’t even drive and brought scooter in main road. No need to bring scooter anymore come in bus. You still need to learn in society etc etc" he said all this in harsh tone. I was so pissed that i brought it for the first time ever and still you can’t even praised me for little effort. And I’m not that bad driver. I just drive slow and safety. And that’s why i wasn’t able to catch up with his Speed.
Is it really about driving only or what… It looks like u hiding something behind this story…
Yes it’s only about fighting but i think we had fight before leaving for home. So maybe he was still upset with that and said this all
Actually the point is the way you explain ya sirf driving ka issue ni lag raha ha… if there is something else so u can share…
Big red flag…how can he belittle you for something like that, you are very right in feeling upset, your boyfriend should be supportive and if possible help you learn to drive better, if this is the first time this has happened talk to him and tell him that he was wrong in saying that and you felt upset see how he reaponds, if he realises his mistake good, but if these kind of situations keep repeating in the future then maybe stay away from the person…
I do say him. But then he said… It’s okay I’ll not be worried about you anymore and always give you fake appreciation.
Thats another red flag, instead of being understanding that you are hurt, he is being sarcastic, as i said if its the first time this happened, give it sometime and see, observe his words and behavior, if he is controlling like this in the future to then break it of slowly, no one who cares about you should keep making you feel small…
If it’s about driving parallel and you couldn’t speed up… Then maybe he should have slowed down… Isn’t that basic sense???
Just in case try to check out if there’s any problem going on in his life which he unfortunately vent out on u in that moment (like maybe his other gf skipped her period or something). Give him the benefit of doubt…
But yes at the same time remember to condemn him that ur self respect isn’t so cheap that he can just say anything he wants whenever he wants and get away with it…
I told him to slow down but still he didn’t much. And no he don’t have any other gf. And yes i know he’s upset about somethings but he shouldn’t be ruin moments like this that too when we meet after 3 months.
I tried to tell him at that moment only. But he gets more upset and started arguing in middle of road !!
Raj Chauhan @raj1403
A man who doesn’t care for you is not the one to be with.
Biggest display of love is care according to me.
Driving on main road, Askin you to speed up even when you aren’t much experienced is not a good thing.
Having said this, was he trying to make u speed up so u can reach home timely and u would not be question at home?? Did he drive along with you to drop u home safely?? He could have gone his way and asked you to text when u reach home, right??
Let’s talk about tone.
You are learning to drive, you are say 17, he must be max 20? He is still immature.
We don’t know how he treats you and all so won’t ask you to reconsider relationship. But u shall be observant henceforth.
Also you are too young, ask yourself if this is gonna last forever or its just a momentary relationship.
If not forever then don’t give ur 100% and don’t get so emotionally involved that u get hurt by his tone n choice of words.
Give befitting replies.
When he commented this you shall reply “Tu Teri maa k pet se seekh k aaya tha kya chirkoot?”
Sometimes you have to give it back so he would understand you won’t take anything he gives you without you punching back.
If you are someone who isn’t into casual stuff then request you to reconsider relationship and distance yourself slowly
Hope both of you have driving licence and wore helmet?
Yes we both have driving licence and wore helmet 😂