So I’m a female dating a female, we have been dating for about 3 months. Everything seems great but there’s one thing that’s always on my mind. I get jealous when she hangs out with her female friends, I trust her beyond words can explain and I don’t think she’d ever do anything behind my back but I constantly have the feeling I’m not good enough for her. She also sometimes sucks at texting when she’s with her friends but when I’m with her she doesn’t really use her phone as it is anyways so I try not to let it bother me but I also don’t really hang out with people, like ever . So all my free time goes to my girlfriend, so when I’m not with her or not texting her I’m just at home constantly over thinking everything and I just want this feeling to go away , if anyone could give me ideas I would gladly appreciate it.
Jealously is absolutely normal in a relationship but don’t let that control your relationship from every direction. Everytime you get jealous when she hangs out with her female friends, First accept the fact that you are jealous and be okay with it. Secondly, TELL HER, the more you say the things you feel the lesser yoy feel them. Also, remember that you are a part of her life and not her whole life itself. She seems like a person who lives in the moment and rarely uses her phone. So everytime she is not with you, do something that makes you, YOU. For eg you could read, paint, draw, code etc. She is just a part of your life too. Let your relationship be a part of your life and don’t let your life revolve around your relationship. The only person who you should be attached to forever is you, nobody else. You can put you efforts, love, etc in your relationship but never put a part of your soul in a relationship or anything as such. Don’t just live just coz you are in a relationship with someone. Have a life of your own too. Cheers
Heyy I completely understand the feeling and trust me it’s tough. I was in a similar situation myself and I feel you just have to let go of the constant fear of them hurting you. Because when you start to get obsessed over trivial things (may not seem trivial to you) but to them it’s suffocating. And it just drives them even far away from you. I feel people like me and you thrive on constant time and undivided attention, but we gotta understand that we cannot control the actions of others. I’ve understood that, eventhough my girlfriend has issues we work them out by just talking about them. And I give her time . That’s all that matters at the end of the day. Your love should let them free and not be restrictive. They’ll be happier to know that we stand with them no matter what. And just let go. I know it’s tough. But try to. Jealousy can be actually good, but more of anything can ruin healthy relationships. I really hope you guys understand each other and Love each other forever and always ❤️
