so i was deeply in love with a guy but my family didn't approve and forced me to marry someone they chose for me and for their happiness i did it but I am not happy at all...now my ex was waiting for me all this time it's been a year and now he has found someone.. i feel happy for me at the same time i am feeling bad too...coz i really love him but i know now that i am married we can't be together and i don't want to cheat anyone and he deserve to be happy he deserves the best coz he is the best. he is the person who taught me what love is and i feel guilty coz i couldn't marry him.. i just want to see him happy... 

Aditya Sahu 

He moved on . Let him stay happy . You should focus on your marriage . Love can't be controlled. May be you still love your ex . But respect the relation you have with the man your married . He deserves some respect atleast .

Vishnu Vardhan Naidu 

Love

Hey, I'm new to this whole thing... My online sort of best friend is practically in love with me... I really wanted us to stay friends ..and this shit is scarring me..I have no idea whatsover he's planning to meet me on my birthday and we live in two different cities...this is really scary for me because oflate  I've been filled with negative thoughts ...everything was going good until this happened ... I seriously have no idea what to do

I like this friend of mine for almost 3 years now. I love how everything about him although he's quite insecure in everything about himself. His genuine smiles and cute gestures always really make my day. It's just so sad that the pandemic arrived and we were forced to do online class. Despite the difficulties, we always find ways to communicate with each other. No, it's not like he's only contacting me. He messages everyone in our circle of friends or maybe just send a message to our group chat. 
Though I like him very very much, of course I won't risk to tell him about what I feel. I know some of you will say that I might regret it in the future if someday he will be snatched away in front of me. But it's okay, I mean I know he won't ever look at me like the way I look at him and that I won't ever got a chance in case he knew about my admiration.
He's gay and of course, it's obvious he likes guys. He's not even bi. But I like that about him too. Oh my unrequited love. When will I let you go?


Hi my boyfriend is still in thoughts of his ex crush whom he loved alot and i know that he did love her but now it's bothering the present and its getting more like friends with benefits than being actual relationship
I love him alot and he loves me too but how to handle if he thinks of her 
She doesn't give a shit about his feelings and he doesn't want her now but she is always there on his mind and this is always their in my mind

Confusion

Told my boyfriend what hurts me and he does everything that hurts me but from my side I feel scared that I might do something that he doesn’t like and I m just scared to looose him even though he broke my heart many times and I still gave him many chances but I feel stupid now for doing lots of efforts and the worst part is that he hurts me . For few days after our fight on these topics he behave well with me but after some days I feel useless in his life . Please help me these things are draining me everyday . And I m hurting my self physically and mentally. And I have told these things to him. 

3am Thoughts

I was 17 years old when I was in a middle of a relationship that I had entered into because he was my friend and I didn't want to hurt his feelings, but I wasn't in love with me, and he tried to control my decisions, so I decided to walk out of it. During all this was happening, I was a freelance content writer and I met this guy for whom I worked for. He told me he was based in Pune and despite, I knew only the basics, he said he will teach me, and he rarely talks to any writer like he does to me. I started sharing a mentor-mentee bond with him, and everything seemed perfect. He was vulnerable, and he shared how he had been with someone who isn't willing to marry him, but has been seeking money. I believed him. He told me a thousand stories of how bad things happened to him, and he always happen to be right. We would talk for long hours, and work as well. But this was all through virtual means. 

I was naive and vulnerable. My mental health had hit the slide and my mistake was seeking solace in him. I started considering him a friend. I'd share things with him, and he would share his. It was a pure bond. I kind of started feeling attracted to him, but he was older, he told me he was 6-7 years older. He would tell me how he had helped others and suffered, and how he was afraid to help now, but still helped me whenever I needed. He seemed kind.

4 months into this, we started dating. It was long distance, he was older, but it felt real. I was a child and I thought everything will be fine. It wasn't. He would not share his pictures very often saying he wasn't comfortable clicking them. He would not allow me to video call me saying his parents are conservative. He wouldn't talk to me in and around his house for the same. He would walk down to a park to talk to me. I'd request him to come to my city, but he said let's be sure focus and you need to focus on your work. I didn't see any of the red flags because I didn't want to make my partner do something they were not comfortable with. 

Months passed. Everything was perfect. We never fought. I had no complaints. I respected him boundaries, told him to respect mine. Anotber fishy thing was he wasn't in the favour of telling about us to my friends. I did very soon, but he wasn't very supportive with this. Even when we had a fight, he would say I am afraid you will take legal action against me. I would laugh because I thought why would I do that I loved him. 

He would offer to buy me gifts, but I wasn't very supportive of taking gifts. If I would offer to send something, he would say I will ask when you'd earn money. Months into our relationship, he came to my city to meet me and stayed at his cousins place. They didn't know about me. No one did. I would insist to tell to somebody so that if anything wrong happens, I have somebody to reach to
. He said his parents will force him to marry, and I was too young. So I cooperated. We met. Everything was perfect. He was dreamy.

When I had asked about his ex, before entering into our relationship, he said he declined money favours, so she blocked him. I asked more questions, whenever I'd ask he would say I will tell you when we will see each other. 

I believed. When we did, we told me everything, I don't know which parts our true. He left. He came again 3 months later. At one instance, I was making fun of Aadhar caed pictures and had his wallet in my hand, he snatched it from me. I would insist he would say it's very bad. I ignored. 

He left few days later. And he asked me to find places to stay for him. He wanted to move to my city. So 8 months later, I was. Covid happened. He stopped calling me. No Video calls. No calls
 Just texts. I would request saying I need to hear you, he would say if he would step out, his parents are old, anything can happen. I said but you can talk from here, we would fight and things would be under the carpet. This continued for 6 months. We completed 2 years and then he called me fir a minute to wish me. 

A few months before we turned two, I got to know he had a sibling. A sister which I had known about, but when we met he said he was only child and I assumed she must be his cousin, but they might be close. He lied. I got to know it after 1.5 years. It was a small thing, but the point was he lied. I fought. We fought a lot. Before forgiving him, I would ask him if there's anything else he lied about or else when I get to know in ruture. I will leave. He said it was a misunderstanding he never wanted to lie.

I developed a sense of fear, a thing that something is wrong. 2 years 3 months later. I'd randomly ask him what his age was. And he would laugh and say 12. 2
. I am a foetus. He had told me his exact age when we met, but I started doubting it. But considered it a doubt of overthinking, than facts. 2 years 3 months later, I was having this conversation again, when a normal conversation turned into a fight and I figured out he was 13 years older to me.
I was in pieces. I broke up with him. 

I was afraid if he had been married. I wanted to know, I tried. I don't know yet. He knew I was a kid. I trusted him. It's been 5 months, but I find it difficult to deal with it. I wish I could know the truth. 




Long Distance Relationship

confused....
    i am 19  years old and i breakeup recently with my boyfriend actually i dont feel comfortable with him because he used to talk about weird things  but when i told these things to him he always  ignores. I also saw in his chats that he used to flirt with so other girls before being my boyfriend at the same time he used to say those things to me also when i asked him he told that forget those things . then i made a fake profile and asked him to be my boyfriend he agrees and then i showed all those chats to him and he was like he knows that i was using that fake profile. My trust broke but when i told that i want to breakup he was like what happened and why i am doing this and in front of my friends he made me as a cheater who used him , so i lied that my parents knew about us and they seized my phone thats why i can not talk to him. Due to this reason,  i am in depression because i dont know what to do.

Depression

In a situationship coz I can't get over them.

It's been 2 months since my loved one left me heartbroken and shattered. I tried everything to stand up on my feet again. I tried to focus on myself and get better, but life without him feels meaningless. He has been quite toxic but I only remember the good parts. I am not sure if I'll ever be able to connect with someone the way I connected with this person.  I don't stalk him anymore but my mind constantly thinks about him. What do I do?

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