So I have three worries here.
1. I met this guy on dating app, he is 23 years old and I am 30 years old female. Do we have a future?
2. I started talking to him on 20 Feb and got so interested in him that I confessed him on 22 Feb that I am getting intrested in him. And also that we should stop talking because we have no future. And just after that I started talking to him normal because I didn’t want him to leave.so I actually don’t know what to do.
3. Though we belong to same state, currently we are living in different states. I think there is actually no future.
Unfortunately u r right
That we have no future?
Hey spend time with urself to know whether it was right or wrong
Yes you are right. I should spend some time thinking on this whole situation. Thankyou for your advice .
You have a future just you guys need to have acceptance
But he is stepping in his career and I am in the marriage age. I don’t want to ruin his experiences because he is just 23. That’s why I am a little worried.
So I should actually stop talking to him? Idk if it will actually go somewhere. But rn because I like him it is helping me to get out of my depression too. That’s why I thought that I will be with him as long it will go. It’s fine if he or me is not interested at a point of time.
How can you know the future, nobody knows. It takes time to know someone, understand them and have any positive or negative feelings about them. If you both are interested then make a move, take time.
If you guys are not good for each other then time will make you separate itself to take you to somebody better for you.
Yes you are right. And it’s such an impressive fact. Time actually make us clear that if we actually like them and vice versa.
It’s not even possible 7 year gap. And you are infactuated to him
Yes because he is young, he looks handsome and always initiate message and makes efforts. So overall yes I like him.
It depends on you, are you in that state to face a heart break? Will you be able to handle separation?
It seems you are emotional person because only emotional person can fall for someone within two days, am same as you, but trust me situation of yours is totally opposite to him, he can give a excuse at any time, you can marry him but he can refuse. You can go casual but it will give you a painful memory in the end, I will suggest you to look for serious relationship which can end to marriage. My eyes are full of tears while reading this , I didn’t cried but got emotional because I am in same boat but situation is bit different
Yes I am 30. It’s not a big thing for me. I am keeping that in my mind that after few days maybe he or me would lose interest. If things went well… Awesome. Else I am ready for it. Obviously it will hurt but I will manage.
I can definitely relate to you. I hope your heart heal and you get someone who connects and be with you.
I hope you will manage this
My situation is complicated, by the way you mentioned that guy is from your state… so what about your first meeting?
Simple words m bole
Toh ek rista / relationship / pyar depend karta dono side par.
Agar dono side se genuine spark rhega toh na gap rok payega na kuch. But Aisa dono side se sincere aur serious relationship Aaj k date m dekhna tough hai, I hope in your case kaash sab accha rhe. Baaki if you still have any doubt you can ask me
Yes I totally do agree with you. Now actually I have stepped back and am just talking to him. With time samjh aajaega. Ho skta hai ki I would be the one to leave him. Qnki after days I found someone really interested in me but if he is not mature enough then I have to leave him. So yes I am now taking one step back and not focusing so much into him.
Can you explain your situation a bit more? I mean how much time you have for marriage?
Good decision, just be sure if he is serious for you or just looking for casual things . And best way to figure out this is by talking to him, and I know you are mature enough to understand the difference between fake things and real things.
It can happen this year too. My parents are searching guy for marriage. But I really don’t want to. I want to get the job. Get out of here and wait at least for two years. But I doubt if that will happen.
You are living with your parents?
And what about your siblings? Are you the only one who is left for marriage?
And yup time will decide everything, keep talking and baat krke hi figure out hoga , so baat kro , jyada overthinking mat karna. All the best.
Sure. Thankyou so much. It really cleared a lot of things for me.
No problem, i can understand your situation…
Is there any other guy whom you like and who is close to your age?
What sort of depression you are dealing with now?
And one more thing, you can’t clearly say that people of 23 age are immature or anything like that. I agree that mostly people are not looking for anything serious but there are still some people with sincerity, so take your time while figuring out if he’s serious or not. Are you talking to this guy only? Or are you talking to other guy too?
I actually am on dating app just to clear my mind. I study and I stay in home the whole time. So I am there just to have a peace of mind. While the process I liked this guy. And after all these responses I decided to keep talking to guys. Its not that I am dating him. So I am talking to other guys casually. Else I would be too much focused on him and it can be tiresome for me and pressurising for him.
What’s his thoughts on all this? Did he seem interested in long term commitment? What was his words in all these things…
When will he visit your place? As you mentioned he is from your state…
If he is also looking for serious relationship, then it won’t be pressurising for him, but if he is looking for something casual then definitely he won’t take too much interest. You should be clear from start that you are searching for something serious so that the guys who are roaming for temporary connection will keep themself aside from your path.
I will be clear.
Good,
The best person for us is always the one who wants us and who is willing to wait , time plays a major role
All the best, 30 - 23 = 7 years gap… any other option you have? Like any other guy whom you like close to your age?
No. I mean with age I am not even getting intrested in anyone. I liked his efforts that’s why I am interested in him. But if his efforts reduces toh my interest will too.
Umm… it’s been only 3 days since we started talking. I have mentioned in my post.
True , consistency matters, anyone can be good in starting but only a real one can be consistent
Yup, I saw that. One more thing, don’t overthink too much it ruins alot of things.
Take your time , but yup the lesser the age gap the better will be chances of sincerity… although age doesn’t matter but still…
Are you still thinking about him?
Yes. I am an overthinker
Me too,
When was the last time you texted him?
2 hrs back, when we texted gn to eachother.
Basically the more you will talk to someone the better you will get to know that someone, you should spend more time in talking to get a clarity.
That’s cute.
Do you like any other guy apart from him?
Am not getting notification of your reply, maybe because we talked alot in comments…
I guess 2 weeks back someone else posted similar thing. By any chance you are the same person? You are from Delhi?
Try to talk more and especially on calls, to know him more. One golden rule is better to be with someone who waits for you, as from your post what I observed is that you are liking him alot, is he only guy you are liking now? What about other guy you are seeing on dating app? You ain’t interested in any other guy?
no. I posted it the first time.
Being overthinker is so bad, am thinking something from last 3 hours and that’s why am unable to sleep
My problem is I am interested in only one guy at a time.
Oh , tell me one thing, have you ever been in any serious relationship!?
That’s not a problem, that’s a good trait. I follow the same thinking, that’s why am still thinking about someone even when that someone is sleeping peacefully. Side effects of being an overthinker
Yes. I was for three years. And since 2021 I am single. Talked to few guys. Few were interested in me but I lost interest in them. The guys I was interested were not interested in me. Now this guy is interested in me and vice versa
I actually asked in another way, like whether any other guy is putting efforts for you, or this guy in the only sincere guy giving efforts to get you
So true🤦🏿♀️
What’s the reason for losing interest on someone! ? Reason for your breakup?
There were but I was not interested. Currently no one is other than him.
Can we talk personally, my app is freezing while scrolling reply
I am sorry but I want to stop this conversation. I don’t want to go in too much details. I really appreciate for your advice. It is really helping me. I wish you luck too.
Ok
Sure, sorry for so many questions
Not all all. Thankyou for helping me.
I just want to ask one thing
Yes.
It was just suggestions, I know you are still confused, don’t worry, time will give answer to all your doubts.
Leave it as am very much confused, and my question will extend our conversation a bit more. Just tell me one thing … oh god , I typed a whole paragraph but it didn’t appeared here, maybe glitch
Try to stop overthinking, take a good sleep. G00d ni8.
Just pray for me, as I love someone but am still giving efforts to marry that someone. My situation is very complicated
I feel like crying
You too…
Overthinking isn’t in my control, am overthinking from 4 hours
Hey can we talk about thid???
