So, I have this problem. I am 19 years old and have never been kissed - this isn’t a bad thing but I have so much anxiety when it comes to talking to people I like and it’s starting to cause other issues. I am a freshman in college this year. When I was in high school, I didn’t really pay attention to anyone because my school was super small and everyone dated everyone. I thought college would be different - and it was for a little bit. I met this guy who I was really into. We would hang out until like 5 in the morning just talking about things. All of my friends thought something was going on and I was convinced that this was the person I would finally have a relationship with. Then he left after our first semester and we stopped talking. Everyone was so invested in our “relationship” that I couldn’t bare to tell anyone what I was feeling and I didn’t want to tell him. Recently I let my closest friend know that my feelings for this fellow had passed (which was the only way I knew how to explain what was going on) and she immediately began to try to find another one of our friends that may possibly be interested in me. And then I met a friend of a friend, we’ll call him Tom. Tom and I have a lot in common and he’s one of the only people that I have every been able to really see myself with. But my friend expressed interest in him - she wants me to get together with someone else. This further adds to my anxiety - she is so confident and gets every guy she’s ever been interested in and I can barely talk to this man. I don’t know how to deal with these issues, and it’s causing me a lot of stress.