So, I have this problem. I am 19 years old and have never been kissed - this isn’t a bad thing but I have so much anxiety when it comes to talking to people I like and it’s starting to cause other issues. I am a freshman in college this year. When I was in high school, I didn’t really pay attention to anyone because my school was super small and everyone dated everyone. I thought college would be different - and it was for a little bit. I met this guy who I was really into. We would hang out until like 5 in the morning just talking about things. All of my friends thought something was going on and I was convinced that this was the person I would finally have a relationship with. Then he left after our first semester and we stopped talking. Everyone was so invested in our “relationship” that I couldn’t bare to tell anyone what I was feeling and I didn’t want to tell him. Recently I let my closest friend know that my feelings for this fellow had passed (which was the only way I knew how to explain what was going on) and she immediately began to try to find another one of our friends that may possibly be interested in me. And then I met a friend of a friend, we’ll call him Tom. Tom and I have a lot in common and he’s one of the only people that I have every been able to really see myself with. But my friend expressed interest in him - she wants me to get together with someone else. This further adds to my anxiety - she is so confident and gets every guy she’s ever been interested in and I can barely talk to this man. I don’t know how to deal with these issues, and it’s causing me a lot of stress.
hey tbh, im a 13 year old kid and I’ve been pretty obsessed with getting a relationship. I always get nervous when looked at. Its like I’m being watched and I don’t know what to do. Like I’m a caged animal or something. Once I had someone who grew close to me. I liked them back but when they asked for a kiss, I didn’t know what to do. I feel so pressured because I don’t want this chance to go away but i’m scared to have my first kiss. Life is tough but the choices you make are the hardest to make. As someone who thinks too much about everything that happens in my life, I’m not sure what to do. Sometimes, I get pressured by one of my friends to set myself out or else I’ll never get anybody to be with.
Straight up tell your friend you like Tom. I mean if she doesn’t want you to be with him your friend has to explain. Also, ask her why she is trying so hard to pair you up.
Don’t let her decide your life.