So I have got off track. And now I don’t know how to come back on. Just finished with my exams. And I need to find job. But I’m scared of it, I’m feeling like a loser and I’m avoiding it by sleeping and all. So overall my routine and life is messed up. And i wanna get back on track but I don’t understand how to. It’s all just has become overwhelming.
What do you want to do in life? That is the stuff you should focus on not getting a paycheck. A paycheck that values you. You think you’d fail so you’re not just putting up the work. It feels pointless to you. Its alright. Evryone goes through it. You need to get yourself out of bed by force. Its really upto you. You don’t try and be a bum you’d still be a failure. You give a try you might succeed who knows. If you don’t. The bed isn’t going anywhere you can get back to that. Ok Here’s a thing. Make your bed the moment you get up doesn’t matter its 12 in the noon. You do that for one week. We’ll see how you feel then.
Uk i do a lot of things. The bed thing. Journaling. Time table. But the thing is I’m not able to overcome the fear to go out and apply for jobs. I’m terrified of it. And cz of that fear I’m giving up doing other things too as a coping mechanism. So I’m really being a bum i guess. I am shouting at myself cursing myself to get up and go and apply but the inertia is too strong. I’m unable to overcome it. Feels like a lost cause.
Sharjeel Ahmed @normalguy
Are you a lost cause? I don’t think so. Its good you do all those things. That shows you care. I wish i could tell you failure is not going to happen. Hell I’ve been dealing with it for 6 months. Every morning i used to get at least 10 rejection emails. I power through it apply to 20 more. There are literally hundreds of people applying for a position you’re good at. Statistics is not at your side. Doesn’t mean i give up. Hell i even screwed up 2 3 interviews. But right now i have 3 interviews lined up from very big companies. I might succeed in all of them i might fail again. But i am not going to give up because i know what i need to do. I learn from my mistakes everyday. You will fail everyday. You will question yourself everyday. Don’t give up because failure has not even happened to you. Learn how to be better at interviews i can share a lot of stuff regarding that.
Here’s a thing when you fail you get to know why you failed. You learn from it really. You’re talking to someone to whom failure comes easy as anything. But i still make it better. I was exactly at your place. Cursing myself. Hell i do that everyday. I need to do that remind myself i am not better than anybody. I need to work for anything i want.
You know what kind of hard work requires to be working in a MNC. You need to go through a lot and that’s why they hire people who do go through a lot and still manage to get the job done.
You’re at the start line. Its a marathon not a sprint. You need to stick it until you finish it.
The reason you’re not able to put yourself up for a job is because you don’t know how to. You just replace it with you can’t. Im saying you can. Cursing yourself is just another method of procrastinating. You need to know what people do in your line of work. How can you make it better. The not looking for someone who can do new things. A company is looking for people who understands the existing methods and why you do them.
Most importantly what do you want out of life? What job you want to do?
That’s awesome, what a motivation!
Sharjeel Ahmed @normalguy
It feels sarcastic
No way buddy, I liked your share. As I was once there on the Venter’s place.
Post owner: Well thank you so much for explaining it so well. Yes ur right maybe I’m procrastinating. I just don’t feel it myself anybody will give me a job. I’m a 2020 engg graduate and was giving govt exams but kept failing in them too and was avoiding about job cz I was scared. Now the water is upto neck I guess. I need to have a job. A start somewhere. Still the fear controls me. I feel like a ducking loser. Wasting all these years where everybody has something going on in their lives. I do have chances of clearing my exam this time and I’m also studying for the next attempt but I just cannot keep this job thing on hold any longer. I understand all of this and ik the worst that will happen is I will get rejected and I have absolutely nothing to lose yet idk why I am unable to take any step ahead. I feel it’s just bcz I got no real skill and nobody will take me. But I have also seen my friends and most people who had no real skill and yet they got selected and trained all the logic I understand yet I fail to take the step. The time is just going away and I am here stuck and nobody is to blame but myself
Sharjeel Ahmed @normalguy
Here’s the thing. You’re looking at half the picture. You didn’t waste 2 years. You tried something. It didn’t workout for you. Its fine. You need to find what can you do with the engineering degree of yours. What are your options. Explore them. Just find the one that suits you best. Find everything you can do to get that. Its a process you need to start somewhere. Its overwhelming but you’ll feel great when you start believe me. No one is blaming you. Stop blaming yourself. We are clueless what to do with our lives. So when we try something and instantly we are not good at it. We feel like a failure. We need to stop doing that. You want to keep giving government exams that’s fine too. Just make sure you’re doing what you’re supposed to do. Keep asking yourself, is what you’re doing enough? Do you need to do more?
Yea I just cannot be consistent with things that I start. But idk how do I explain this gap. I’m terrified of it. How do I put it in words.
Sharjeel Ahmed @normalguy
You just say the truth. You tried for govt jobs. Never lie on your resume. Just explain how you tried and gave everything you had to it. In a very professional manner. Im sure you’d get a YouTube video for it. Its alright they will understand that. And it was a chaotic two years. So you’ll be fine.
Trust me it’s not that scary actually as we think it is going to be. Just go, stand up there, give the application/interview who knows you will get it. Even if you don’t, you will gain a confidence that you can stand and you did something. You will know, it’s not that hard as you thought it will be. So try once? :)
Yes what u say i totally get it. I’m mustering up the courage for it. Hope I get started with it soon I cannot afford to delay it any longer
