So I have a friend…we’re friends since childhood…she’s a realistic person or I can say I donno what kinda person she is…she never opens up with me…its been years and years I tried but I always feel some distant or tension between us…yeah it is weird as it sounds we’ve been friends since childhood but I rarely know things about her…we do things…we do laugh together…but I always zhink before I speak to her…doesn’t friendship means zo be with someone with whom you can talk about anything and everything? But in pur case uts different…she never shares anything with me…she always calls me with names like du mb anno ying stu pid and stuff but I really never mind because friends call each other with these names…but sometimes I really feel like I’m du mb…like she gets annoyed when she talks with me…I’ve tried to get distance with her because there’s no need to be with someone where you feel like you’re burden to them…so I started to make distance between us…but there she don’t even let me go…even if I stop talking with her for weeks…she’d always show up…its so confusing…why am I being like this??😞😞😞
Okay see, it’s not that she’s a bad friend or something, like some people are built like that, you can’t just change them.
And keeping distance between you two, see the thing is, being totally distant will not help anyone, keeping safe distance will.
Like be there for her whe she needs you, I’m sure that she’ll be also there for you when you need her.
Try keeping safe distance, she’s your childhood friend, and let that go.
See everyone’s definition of friendship is different, in this case it’s kinda opposite so, make some new friends too. But try to handle it with care.
That’s what I’m doing…you know even If I try to make some distance between us it never worked…its just sometimes I want to know her better…about her likes and dislikes…and stuff…but I can’t force anyone right…so I just go with the flow…I hope someday she’ll tell me about herself…also I’m not good with words…may be its my fault that people never felt comfortable enough to share things…but I just want to be there for her…whenever I ask her about her day or how’s she’s doing…she gets angry because she doesn’t like this questions…so I’ve even stopped asking…but okay its hard to leave her…and even harder to make her understand me…she’s someone I can never ever be able to let go…so I’ll just wait until she realizes…btw thank you for your response…it means alot
It’s okay man, I can understand it’s similar to what I’m going through right now.
It’s hard to let go that one person, it’s okay you don’t have to do it. You’ll just have to go with the flow, don’t think about it too much, make new friends, enjoy your life, be there for your childhood friend, it’s a bond that you should cherish.
Ahhh yeesss you’re absolutely right…I’ll try my best…thanks alot buddy…I hope you’d be able to solve your problems too…best of luck…btw If you wanna share…feel free to vent it out…🥺thank you for giving me hope
